Monday Open Thread
February 23, 2015 7:32 AM - Cobble B. Hiller

154 comments
February 23, 2015 7:33 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
GM

#1
February 23, 2015 7:41 AM - Partridge
GM

I got lost looking for a photo. There are so many lovely grapevines and scenic shots. This one made me smile.
Edited at February 23, 2015 7:41 AM
#2
February 23, 2015 7:55 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
I like the bunch of purple grapes on the left, cute.

I was just reading about Napa, apparently they charge for tastings now, and it's not cheap! $145 at one place! If we paid for a tasting back in 198?, I'm sure it wasn't more than $10. In fact, I think Sterling may have been the only one we visited which charged, but that was mainly to pay for the tram ride.
Edited at February 23, 2015 7:55 AM
#3
February 23, 2015 8:04 AM - BirdnestHead
Yay. Monday. Joy.
#4
February 23, 2015 8:07 AM - Partridge
I woke with kitty litter on my mind.
#5
February 23, 2015 8:28 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Good luck with Carlo this morning.
#6
February 23, 2015 8:46 AM - Partridge
Thank you. But first things first. I have to see all the Florentine papers offered on Etsy before I can even think about Carlo.

Edited at February 23, 2015 8:46 AM
#7
February 23, 2015 8:47 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Ooh, fun stuff!
#8
February 23, 2015 8:56 AM - petebklyn
that paper reminds me of some the Kehinde Wiley paintings I saw at Brooklyn Museum yesterday. People do really dress
for the museum. Quite the fashion show. Benson would approve.
#9
February 23, 2015 8:58 AM - Partridge
This one is pretty great too (another Italian Carta Varese below) but I'm favoring the Japanese ones more.
#10
February 23, 2015 8:59 AM - Partridge
Chiyogami paper.
Edited at February 23, 2015 8:59 AM
#11
February 23, 2015 9:02 AM - Partridge
chiyogami paper again.

The end.
Edited at February 23, 2015 9:02 AM
#12
February 23, 2015 9:02 AM - petebklyn
these papers not related to the dried flowers or the sustainable flowers, I assume
Edited at February 23, 2015 9:02 AM
#13
February 23, 2015 9:02 AM - Partridge
I LOVE his work, Pete. Is there a show?
#14
February 23, 2015 9:05 AM - RowerChick
The red and tan is my fav. All are lovely. The Japanese do packaging so well.
#15
February 23, 2015 9:07 AM - Partridge
Yes, they are for the framed feather/pressed flower pieces. Used for trim on the floral pieces and maybe backdrops for the solid feathers. Still sourcing the right ones.
#16
February 23, 2015 9:07 AM - petebklyn
yes, big show at museum thru May24
Edited at February 23, 2015 9:07 AM
#17
February 23, 2015 9:09 AM - More4Less
Finally succumbed to this bitter cold and got a wool hat.

How does it go from 40's to 10's in 1 day??? Ain't global warming; more like colding
#18
February 23, 2015 9:11 AM - More4Less
Where the heck is the resident Japanese expert????

Randi, don't make me look like a fool and show up by tomorrow - at the latest.
#19
February 23, 2015 9:12 AM - petebklyn
you are just on wrong part of the globe at the moment
#20
February 23, 2015 9:13 AM - More4Less
Then it ain't GLOBAL warming then
#21
February 23, 2015 9:14 AM - Partridge
Ooow, great. I can get there by then.
#22
February 23, 2015 9:31 AM - dibs
GM. Those wallpapers remind me of the tile floors in the houses in the Merida real estate listings
#23
February 23, 2015 9:39 AM - BoerumHillScott
The last time I did tastings was around 10 years ago in the Santa Ynez Valley north of Santa Barbara.
The going rate was $10 or $15, and you kept the glass.
#25
February 23, 2015 9:42 AM - petebklyn
it is Mina not Mena
#26
February 23, 2015 9:43 AM - Partridge
Thought you were going to "some French place" for dinner.
#27
February 23, 2015 9:45 AM - More4Less
Looks like I will finally sign the contract today on that investment house. Might have to flip it quick as something else caught my eye back in Savannah so need the investment money freed up.
Edited at February 23, 2015 9:45 AM
#28
February 23, 2015 9:45 AM - dibs
Michael Mina was a superb dining experience last night. 4 hours.
#24
February 23, 2015 9:46 AM - dibs
Freudian. I have slept with a few Meñas
#29
February 23, 2015 9:49 AM - dibs
I had abalone, then sucklung pig then duck breast. Dessert was cheese followed by cake which they brought.
#30
February 23, 2015 9:50 AM - petebklyn
must be tough to be stock broker on west coast because of time difference. Guy I knew in highschool became one near LA...he dropped dead early 50's from massive heart attack.
#31
February 23, 2015 9:52 AM - Partridge
You thinking 'clean out, paint it, back on market' kinda flip?
#32
February 23, 2015 9:58 AM - Partridge
Dave, those are stationary papers used in book binding, scrapbooking, etc. Yes, a couple of them are classic tile patterns.
#33
February 23, 2015 10:05 AM - dibs
Yeah, gotta be in the office at 5:00 or so
#34
February 23, 2015 10:11 AM - Deleted
No comments about the Oscars?
#35
February 23, 2015 10:11 AM - Deleted
Patricia Arquette rules
#36
February 23, 2015 10:18 AM - Partridge
Alexandre Desplat rules.
#37
February 23, 2015 10:21 AM - More4Less
Part, yeah. Just fix anything broken, plaster & paint, redo floors but no infrastructure upgrade or layout change.

That savannah ppty would require me to use this investment hence if I get that, would need to get out of this fast.
Edited at February 23, 2015 10:21 AM
#38
February 23, 2015 10:21 AM - Deleted
john travolta is aging into a wax figure of his former self.
#39
February 23, 2015 10:22 AM - Kensingtonian
Napa tasting were expensive when I went 3 months ago. 30 bucks for 3 tiny pours. Rip off. Upstate NY or LI wines were like 8-10 bucks.

On of my co-workers husband is a stockbroker for Citi u think. Gets up at 3:30 AM but home by 2pm. Loves it. He does very well.

They are 30 and shopping for a 1MM+ house. Both come from immigrant families so no financial help at all.
#40
February 23, 2015 10:24 AM - Deleted
I thought the Jimmy Kimmel post-Oscar show was more entertaining than the event itself.
Edited at February 23, 2015 10:24 AM
#41
February 23, 2015 10:26 AM - Deleted
you stayed awake for the post oscar show? nice work

awards shows are inherently lame
#42
February 23, 2015 10:50 AM - dibs
Why do so many feel the need to get work done? You wouldn't see Clint Eastwood having work done.
Edited at February 23, 2015 10:50 AM
#43
February 23, 2015 10:51 AM - Deleted
Yeah, Travolta is skirting into Michael Jackson territory.

Also, will someone tell Michael Keaton that chomping away on a wad of gum on national TV doesn't make him cool, it makes him look uncouth.
#44
February 23, 2015 10:53 AM - Deleted
i think he was chewing on it because he had a little jaw action going on earlier during his red carpet interview (coke?)
#45
February 23, 2015 11:25 AM - dibs
Still in bed sipping on Nespressos.
#46
February 23, 2015 11:29 AM - DeLepp
The gum chewing was odd. Music fro. Grand Budapest hotel was great.
#47
February 23, 2015 11:34 AM - dibs
DeLapp, when do renovations start???
#48
February 23, 2015 11:35 AM - Deleted
Grand Budapest looked interesting (and fun) from the clips they showed.
#49
February 23, 2015 11:36 AM - Deleted
it was - all wes anderson movies are kinda odd and whimsical like that.
#50
February 23, 2015 11:38 AM - dibs
Saw Budapest a long time ago. Cant remember if I really liked it or not
Edited at February 23, 2015 11:38 AM
#51
February 23, 2015 11:39 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
I thought Nicorette when I saw gum chewing.
#52
February 23, 2015 11:41 AM - Deleted
Budapest is kind of my least favorite Anderson movie - surprised it's the one getting the most accolades. Moonrise Kingdom - another recent one - was much better IMHO.
#53
February 23, 2015 11:41 AM - dibs
I see low class, skank when I see chewing gum
#54
February 23, 2015 11:48 AM - pepper
Hi.
#55
February 23, 2015 11:52 AM - Deleted
I had to leave work. Booked a train ticket for Charleston for tomorrow at 3pm. The insurance / funeral planning is a complete nightmare. I did call insurance today and the policy is for 7K. So that will go toward it.
#56
February 23, 2015 11:54 AM - Deleted
People down there do not realize how broke I am. I think they think i'm lying or don't care :(
#57
February 23, 2015 11:57 AM - dibs
They assume that everyone who lives in NYC has lots of money.
#58
February 23, 2015 12:09 PM - dibs
#StayWeird, Pepper
Edited at February 23, 2015 12:09 PM
#59
February 23, 2015 12:12 PM - Deleted
UGH my phone won't dial out.
#60
February 23, 2015 12:14 PM - pepper
Huh?
#61
February 23, 2015 12:14 PM - dibs
Turn it off and back on
#62
February 23, 2015 12:14 PM - Slope4Eva
GM. DFB, I am so sorry to hear of your Grandmother's passing. I don't want to stress you more, and, I'm not positive of course, but in my dealings with funeral homes, many want payment up front. You may want to call around and see if there is one that will wait for the insurance to come through. Make sure you bring any papers with you regarding the insurance, they may want to see it/keep it. Again, I'm so sorry.
#63
February 23, 2015 12:16 PM - Deleted
works now. I need to get the legal paperwork saying i was adopted in order to do cremation. ?
#64
February 23, 2015 12:22 PM - Slope4Eva
Is anyone helping you on that end? Finding a funeral home and giving you a number to contact and ask questions before you leave NY?
#65
February 23, 2015 12:24 PM - dibs
Leaving for Napa shortly.
#66
February 23, 2015 12:26 PM - Deleted
doing funeral / burial for 6500.
#67
February 23, 2015 12:35 PM - More4Less
Dudley, your grandma passed away?
Edited at February 23, 2015 12:35 PM
#68
February 23, 2015 12:37 PM - Partridge
Are the other local family members helping or are they leaving it up to you? I'm not sure who they are as you refer to them as you grandmother's son's baby mama's nephew-in-laws. ;)

Hope you are OK. Text if I can do anything.
#69
February 23, 2015 12:38 PM - More4Less
Dudley, my condolences.
Edited at February 23, 2015 12:38 PM
#70
February 23, 2015 12:40 PM - DeadCatBounce
DFB, so sorry to hear about the passing of your Grandmother.
#71
February 23, 2015 12:42 PM - Deleted
They are helping. They want to get an autopsy done because they think she had heart attack at home after being released from the ambulance instead of going to the hospital. I don't want to go through all this though. I don't have money for lawsuits and stuff.

#72
February 23, 2015 12:46 PM - Partridge
Oh boy.
#73
February 23, 2015 12:47 PM - rf
Have you agreed to a burial rather than cremation? I'm confused about what's in dispute (if anything) and what you need proof of relationship for. In general, calling whoever you think may ask for proof (funeral home arranging cremation or burial? Life insurance company? county morgue?) might reassure you about what you need to bring. They have all done it a zillion times before and will be able to answer your questions.
#74
February 23, 2015 12:56 PM - Deleted
burial. they said that if i opted for cremation i need documents saying i was adopted. but maybe i am being told that because everyone wants a burial / funeral. the lawsuit talk is annoying and stressing me out the most. you think youre doing a nice thing by agreeing to others wishes and then there's always more shit to complicate things.
#75
February 23, 2015 1:01 PM - petebklyn
my condolences, dudley. Kind of a shock for you.
What other relatives are there? you sound like you are the primary survivor.
#76
February 23, 2015 1:04 PM - Deleted
her deceased son's kids and ex girfriend and her sister in law primarily.
#77
February 23, 2015 1:08 PM - petebklyn
Who Has the Right to Make Funeral Arrangements in South Carolina?
South Carolina law determines who can direct the cremation of a person’s remains after death. This right and responsibility goes to the following people, in order:
you, if you see a funeral services provider and complete a “cremation authorization form”
an agent you name in a “verified and attested document”
your spouse, unless you are legally separated
your adult children
your parents
your adult siblings
your adult grandchildren
your grandparents
a person appointed by a probate court as your guardian, or
any other person authorized or under obligation by law to dispose of your body.
#78
February 23, 2015 1:40 PM - dibs
So far no windmills

#79
February 23, 2015 1:56 PM - BoerumHillScott
Most windmills in the Bay Area are in the Altamont Pass 30 miles east of Oakland.
#80
February 23, 2015 1:58 PM - dibs
In Napa

#81
February 23, 2015 2:00 PM - Partridge
Did you pass the sign yet?
#82
February 23, 2015 2:00 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Sorry to hear about your grandmother, DFB. Condolences from afar.
#83
February 23, 2015 2:16 PM - dibs
Salt works here...$10.99 for exact same jar I use
Edited at February 23, 2015 2:16 PM
#84
February 23, 2015 2:19 PM - dibs
They have a plain, a wine and a chili flavor. Imagine that

#85
February 23, 2015 2:21 PM - pepper
but no sriracha?
#86
February 23, 2015 2:25 PM - dibs
Sriracha is chili flavor

#87
February 23, 2015 2:32 PM - dibs
I would have thought a pepper might know that

#88
February 23, 2015 2:36 PM - Partridge
Duh!
#89
February 23, 2015 2:39 PM - dibs
Did u people know that whole foods has a rewards card now?

#91
February 23, 2015 2:44 PM - MontroseMorris
I've been through autopsies and lawsuits, when my Mom died under suspicious medical practices. If her body is in the hospital morgue, you should be able to ask the county or city coroner about an autopsy. Someone had to sign a death certificate. Did she die without medical care? Did the ambulance come back to get her or take her to the hospital? I'm sorry to ask hard, painful questions at this time. If she's at the morgue, it's not too late to get an autopsy. But I would get all of the facts first before doing anything.

If it turns out that she died from some kind of malpractice, and there really is a lawsuit there, any good malpractice lawyer will take the case on contingency. You would not have to pay any money up front. They get a percentage, usually 30%, plus expenses, from the results of the suit. If the relatives are looking for a payday, do not sue. She's not an ATM for them. If you go foreward with it, you need to arrange with the lawyer, who should be local, what the payout arrangement would be if you win. The last thing you need is to win a settlement without arranging all of that, signed and on paper, and deadbeat relatives who didn't lift a hand to do anything are standing in line waiting to get paid. Unfortunately, death and money bring out the worst in people. You are going to have to be strong. I think you have it in you, but please, for your own sake, be absolutely sure.
#90
February 23, 2015 2:46 PM - DeLepp
You are beginning to sound like Bush senior when he didn't know about the scanners at supermarkets.
Edited at February 23, 2015 2:46 PM
#92
February 23, 2015 2:47 PM - rf
DFB, is your grandmother's body still in the morgue? Call them and they will tell you about releasing it to a funeral home. If it's at a funeral home, call them. You might as well get the information from someone who knows what they are talking about. Do you have any paperwork about your grandmother's wishes? Are you named as beneficiary on the life insurance policy? Do you have a copy of the policy?

If you can get a reasonably certain report from someone who has authority in this situation (the morgue, the funeral home, the life insurance company), try not to pay attention to everyone who is trying to influence you.

I could understand if you agreed to the burial because you just want to be agreeable to the people who were in touch with your grandmother the most during her last years. But I really don't believe in any kind of afterlife so it wouldn't bother me very much to make a decision out of kindness to the living. (Just in case that seems easier to you.) But it sounds like you are the one who decides. Whether there's a cremation or a burial, it sounds to me like permission would require the same degree of approval.

If your grandmother's grandson in SC or anyone else there has something in writing that she wanted a burial and wanted her life insurance to be used for that purpose, maybe it would be different. But if she has a life insurance policy, the beneficiary has to be the decider, unless someone has $$$ to pay for something else and has legal standing to make the decision.


#93
February 23, 2015 2:47 PM - DeLepp
$5M is a real reach for the house over there.
#94
February 23, 2015 2:47 PM - dibs
Well our wf never ever said anything about them
#95
February 23, 2015 2:48 PM - rf
Jinx, MM.
#96
February 23, 2015 2:49 PM - kazootite
Dear Dudley, having been through this recently I believe I can assist your process:
1. Forget the autopsy and the lawsuit. Don't let relatives talk you into more expense. (This part I'm unsure of, but if her heart was weak, there would have been nothing one could do anyway.)
2. A burial could cost upwards of ten thousand dollars. The $6500 you wrote could be just for the funeral, then you'd be liable for the remaining thousands for a burial plot. Few people opt for burial anymore. It is personal though.
3. A funeral home costs maybe $2500 for cremation. There are businesses that are strictly cremation that cost in the $800-1100 range. Go that route and the ashes are given to the family. You can have a personal ceremony, many people choosing to scatter the ashes at sea, or some such. (No costs for this.)
4. You can phone one of these cremation businesses. They will take your loved one to their place. You can pay them when your money arrives. You explain the insurance policy. They are used to dealing with these things. They are the ones who give you the death certificates and they report the death to soc. security.
5. When my brother and I went to the cremation place, they didn't ask if we were adopted. We said this is our mother.
6. Did you say your mother belongs to a church? If you have no one to assist you (except crazy relatives), I might suggest going to her pastor to help you, or a strong friend of hers.
7. For me this was impossible to do alone because I was so distressed. Things didn't go smoothly at first with the funeral home we first contacted then abandoned, because they were fishy about the money and "couldn't find" our deposit. That is when someone made us aware of the cremation businesses (we didn't know anything). We went there.
8. Without my brother by my side, I don't think I could have done it. Grief and death are terrible things to go through. I have read that grief is one of the only emotions one needs help to go through. (Something like- it takes several people to carry a grand piano. Hard to lift alone.) It doesn't sound to me as if your relatives would be of any great strength and also might be upset themselves.
7. I wonder if your grandmother/really mother, hadn't made some arrangements and there would be papers somewhere. Good luck, Dudley.
8. Oh, and the funeral home will want your loved one because those businesses make big bucks. If your gram is already at a funeral home place, you can call and have them transfer her to a cremation place. It is done all the time.
9. Getting your adoption papers is something one ought to do anyway. A pastor or some such person could assist you with that. I have an insurance agent, for instance, who has been helpful to me with getting types of information I needed. Again Dudley, good luck.

#97
February 23, 2015 2:49 PM - DeLepp
Kind of odd that the program would be regional but competition may be tougher out there in lala land.
#98
February 23, 2015 2:51 PM - kazootite
Oops, Dudley and MM. I wrote this before MM's post.
#99
February 23, 2015 2:52 PM - rf
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February 23, 2015 2:54 PM - rf
kazoo-tite, sorry for your loss.
February 23, 2015 2:54 PM - kazootite
Also wrote before RF's post.
I'm sorry, MM, about all that happened with your mother.
February 23, 2015 3:00 PM - Deleted
A church they go to found a plot for her, and they are saying for free. The 6500 is the funeral and everything else included perhaps. She's going to be buried with the urns of the ashes of her husband my grandfather and their son who were both cremated. She did mention she wanted something like that over the years. I don't care if the whole 7K goes to the funeral and I dont see any of it. I just can't go into anymore debt. She's going to call around about a lawyer for possible malpractice, but I am laying low on that and not going to press it as I'd rather not have to worry about that part.

I'm doing laundry right now and packing. I'm sober. The dogs are comforting me. I'm finally eating something (stale bagel and hummus, but it's something)

February 23, 2015 3:08 PM - dibs
At Stags Leap. Nice

February 23, 2015 3:09 PM - Partridge
One kind Polish guy. No kitty litter.
February 23, 2015 3:12 PM - rf
Yay! Carlo freed!
Edited at February 23, 2015 3:12 PM
February 23, 2015 3:14 PM - kazootite
Thank you, RF.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Dudley.

MM, come to think of it, my brother and I also wondered if enough had been done and if was handled well and in a timely manner.
February 23, 2015 3:16 PM - DeLepp
Stags leap looks great, have fun.
February 23, 2015 4:04 PM - Deleted
My sister is taking the train with me tomorrow :)
February 23, 2015 4:09 PM - MontroseMorris
Not to throw cold water on your funeral plans, but check beforehand about being able to inter other people's ashes in a single grave. Some in the rip-off funeral business want to charge for three graves, as there are three people in the casket, technically. It happened to a friend of mine. They ended up sneaking the urn in the casket. This is why there are no poor funeral directors. They take people at the worst time in their lives and find reasons to charge for things that suddenly end up on the final bill. You may not care about having anything left over, but you want to make sure you've got enough.

Good advice gazoo-tite, all around, and thanks for your condolences. Mine go out to you.
February 23, 2015 4:14 PM - Deleted
And it turns out our brother is in jail right now :/
February 23, 2015 4:15 PM - Deleted
MM, eeeks. DIdn't think about that. But they were in the room with the director and they made it pretty clear that it would be okay. I already told them that whatever is done ALL has to be under 7000 K from the insurance policy.
February 23, 2015 4:15 PM - dibs
At Plumpjack

Edited at February 23, 2015 4:15 PM
February 23, 2015 4:16 PM - rf
Are this sister and brother children of your mother who are younger than you? Did your mother raise them?
February 23, 2015 4:18 PM - Deleted
Yeah.
February 23, 2015 4:21 PM - MontroseMorris
That's good, DFB. I hope it all works out as well as these things can possibly work out. I'm also glad you will have company. No one needs to try to be an island of strength. It's impossible.
February 23, 2015 4:22 PM - petebklyn
I saw on episode of Orange is the new Black where main character got to get out of prison for 5 day furlough because of sick grandmother who by then died before furlough started but got to go to funeral. maybe your brother can get furlough to go too?
February 23, 2015 4:35 PM - dibs
Silver Oak next

Edited at February 23, 2015 4:34 PM
February 23, 2015 4:35 PM - dibs
Spring
Edited at February 23, 2015 4:35 PM
February 23, 2015 4:52 PM - Legion
Good afternoon.

Very sorry to hear about your grandmother DFB.
My condolences to you.

Very good advice from everyone.
If you are the primary next of kin stand strong and resist pressure from
other family members that you don't feel comfortable with.
There will inevitably be conflicting feelings but give yourself whatever space
you need to grieve.
Things happen very quickly following the death of a loved one and you may
forget to take care of yourself amid all the frenzy.
Write things down if you have to in order to remind yourself of what you need to take care
of.
If there is paperwork that already specifies her wishes then that makes things a lot easier.
If not, and you are the primary next of kin, you need to do what you think is best as her grandson.
Some papers you need to secure to take care of other matters afterwards include;
life insurance policies
insurance cards
social security card
passport
medicare card
birth certificate
death certificate
bank cards
deed
title
etc.
It's difficult to concentrate on all this right now, but you should have a list of things to go over while you're there.



Edited at February 23, 2015 4:52 PM
February 23, 2015 4:55 PM - Legion
dibs,
how's the weather in Cali?
We're going back into a deep freeze with single digits here tonight.
February 23, 2015 4:57 PM - Legion
4 degrees tonight.
Oh my.
February 23, 2015 5:01 PM - dibs
I dont have a SS card and no idea where birth cert is.

Edited at February 23, 2015 5:01 PM
February 23, 2015 5:02 PM - dibs
Beautiful. Been high 60s every day. Probably 71 here today

Edited at February 23, 2015 5:02 PM
February 23, 2015 5:08 PM - Deleted
It will be 50 in SC. Muchly, needed.

February 23, 2015 5:19 PM - More4Less
Looks like weather around 40 starting this Sun
February 23, 2015 5:26 PM - pepper
I'm headed to Salt Lake City tomorrow. Supposed to be in the high 40s/low 50s. Sounds good to me!
Edited at February 23, 2015 5:26 PM
February 23, 2015 6:11 PM - kazootite
Oops! I ought to say that I wasn't planning to jump into the convo here again. My reason for reading Brownstoner is that I'm "always" moving back to Brooklyn. I've read some of you say that Brownstoner is no longer what it used to be. Yet, for a person who is far away it is useful. I've been able to read about how the neighborhoods have changed, new development, etc. So I like Brownstoner and don't know Mr. B's politics exactly. Every once-in-awhile I see a NY site I think MM might like to explore, or a site someone else might be interested in. I've thought of posting it here and didn't. I don't know anyone here in person and this seems to have become a place where everyone knows each other, unlike open public sites so don't think I really fit. My hope is to be in NY in about 6 months. I plan to meet at least one person here (to check if I'm a real person). With changes in my family (deaths), I'm not sure if I'll move there, just visit or stay for an extended time. Time will tell. So long for now and good luck with Brooklyn living. :)
February 23, 2015 6:25 PM - Deleted
Kazoo-tite,

I'm really sorry for your loss. I remember that you struggled for a long time to take care of your mom.

I wish you would stick around. I missed you around here, and it would be nice to have your voice in the conversation. You fit in! Our bark is worse than our bite.
February 23, 2015 6:43 PM - Deleted
Yes, stick around Kazoo.
February 23, 2015 6:46 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Hi kazoo, Very sorry for your loss. Taking care of your mother as you did is a difficult thing, followed by the loss -- well, I'm not sure how any of us recover.

Dudley, I hope you do find one person you can rely on to help you through this, choose carefully. I would add: Gather anything that seems important (papers, keys, etc.) in a folder or bag. If there is/was a lawyer or bank manager/ person involved, get in touch with them asap.

And check in here as you can. There is a lot of collective experience, obviously, which you can draw on.
February 23, 2015 6:57 PM - Deleted
I'm doing something I NEVER do. I'm ordering a pizza.

February 23, 2015 7:05 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
We're having leftovers: pork chop, potato/onion rosti-type thing - like a giant latke, and peas.
February 23, 2015 7:09 PM - rf
Good idea, Rob. You deserve a break today!
Edited at February 23, 2015 7:09 PM
February 23, 2015 7:17 PM - petebklyn
I hope not from Domino's or some place like that.
I went out risking frostbite to buy some italian sausage and ricotta cheese. well, esposito's closes early and key food on atlantic sells neither ricotta nor italian sausage. so stuck with some frozen turkey meatball I had bought long time ago for some appetizer thing. and no ricotta.
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February 23, 2015 7:19 PM - Slope4Eva
Kazoo, so sorry for your loss. Too much loss recently for such a small group of people.
February 23, 2015 7:21 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Paisano's might have ricotta, and certainly sausages. But I think they close at 7.
February 23, 2015 7:27 PM - Deleted
I ordered from the new two boots that opened up across the street. It tastes like Jersey pizza to me.

February 23, 2015 7:28 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Two Boots pizza is great!
February 23, 2015 7:34 PM - petebklyn
feel free to pop in anytime, kazoo.

dudley, maybe your cousins will do it all but since grandmother's apt will need to be emptied. Unless she got rid of everything when left NJ, there could be lot of family memorabilia,personal papers, momentos from past -- that you may want to avoid entirely or maybe interested in. Going through the personal possessions of deceased can trigger lot of memories and emotions....just giving heads up.
February 23, 2015 7:38 PM - Deleted
Yeah there's a lot of stuff to go through.. But not really. She was super neat and organized and pretty minimalist in her possessions, so that's good. I'll definitely probably put a box together and my sister is going to do the same with some of the stuff from our mother. We won't be staying there, which is good. I think the the furniture is going to go to some of her neighbors in her complex, and the rest i'll donate to goodwill or something, I think they do pick ups.

February 23, 2015 7:40 PM - petebklyn
on happier note, 1st birth of new generation of my family. nephew's wife had baby. a girl so not someone to carry on family
name (but is common name so guess not big deal).
we are prolific family but slow starters. my other halfs brother is great-grandfather already. this is 1st brother who is grandfather in mine.
Mary Joan ....not one of those artsy or uber-brit names that are popular these days.
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February 23, 2015 8:12 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Very exciting, a grand-niece for you, no? Congrats. : )
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February 23, 2015 8:27 PM - pepper
Great Uncle Pete!
February 23, 2015 8:27 PM - pepper
Kazoo, come by any time. There are a number of posters I have never met. Doesn't bother me.
February 23, 2015 8:29 PM - pepper
Dudley, I hope you're hanging in there. I have no advice for you, other than to go for a walk when people start getting on your nerves. Good luck. How long will you be there for?
February 23, 2015 8:39 PM - Deleted
Not sure. A few days at least. If there's an autopsy the funeral service is going to be pushed back. I have vacation time from work that I can use if I need to.
February 23, 2015 8:59 PM - pepper
Well, you know where to find us if you need anything. Safe journey tomorrow.
February 23, 2015 9:13 PM - kazootite
Thank you, everyone :)

GN


February 23, 2015 9:27 PM - dibs
Tonight's menu...


http://www.farmhouseinn.com/restaurant-0/menu/
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February 23, 2015 10:38 PM - Partridge
_ _ _, it sounds great hearing you taking charge of matters. You have grown so much. Good luck with your journey.
February 23, 2015 10:48 PM - Deleted
Ladies and Gentlemen;

Mark this date in your calendar, the day on which gentrification hit Gravesend. How so? Tonight, for the first time, we rented our hall to..........moonfaces!! A couple from Prospect Heights, and the guy was a complete beardo, complete with knit hat.

I'm already thinking up names to mark our new cachet. Gravesend Heights? Gravebo? Or how about combining with neighboring Bensonhurst and Borough Park into GraveBenBo?

Goodbye Jose and Modello Beer, Hello Molly and Chardonnay!

By the way, we've had such a banner year, that we are shut down for a month so as to gut-renovate our three bathrooms and the bar area.




February 23, 2015 11:55 PM - kazootite
Oh, dfb, one last thing. Good that you ordered a pizza today. Comfort food. Hope you have more food for strength on the road tomorrow.

GN
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February 24, 2015 12:23 AM - sixyearsandcounting
Congrats on breaking the moonface barrier, Benson! I hope you charged moonface prices.