Weekend OT
April 13, 2013 6:26 AM - pepper
If any dish is the national dish of Bosnia, it would have to be Cevapcici (che- VAp-chee-chee). They are popular throughout the former Yugoslavia, but most people agree (one of the few things the Balkans actually agree on) that they are the best in Sarajevo. Specifically at a place in Old Town, Zeljo, named for the local soccer team.

They are little breakfast sausage-like logs made from ground meat (usually veal, lamb, maybe beef, never pork) and spices (but not hot spicy). They are served with chopped raw onion and a pita-like bread called somun. Plain yogurt poured over them is optional, and ajvar is also a common accompaniment. There are many, many restaurants, called cevapcinica, all over, and cevapcici are all they serve...

April 13, 2013 6:56 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
dobro jutro :-)

that sounds kinda tasty (minus the yogurt drizzled on top)
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April 13, 2013 7:02 AM - pepper
dobro jutro.

Yeah, I don't like the yogurt either. Actually, a little secret, I don't like cevapcici very much. I don't hate them, but they are very rich, and I always feel a little sick after eating them... shhhhhhhhh.
April 13, 2013 7:08 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
i won't tell a soul!
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April 13, 2013 7:13 AM - pepper
The Beau doesn't care for them much either, but we keep it to ourselves. He prefers plijeskavica, which is essentially the same meat, made into a big thin patty, served in a somun with cabbage and other stuff. A Balkan burger, really.
April 13, 2013 7:29 AM - DeadCatBounce
I will no longer be growing tomatoes on the fire escape. all gardening activity has been shifted to the country estate.

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April 13, 2013 7:30 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
dcb, have i mentioned that i need a vaca that involves tomatoes? hint hint! lol
April 13, 2013 8:04 AM - Arkady
Happy Samuel Beckett's Birthday!
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April 13, 2013 8:18 AM - dibs
I may have met a Thai guy named Chevapcheechee
April 13, 2013 8:30 AM - dibs
Not sure that I will even plant tomatoes this year. There are so many good farmers markets around me that I can get all sorts during the season. Going to plant potatoes this week and my cippolini onions
April 13, 2013 8:41 AM - Partridge
Dobro jutro. Gorgeous day.
April 13, 2013 8:43 AM - dibs
Still pretty chilly here
April 13, 2013 8:43 AM - dibs
Sorry, chili, if pepper is here
April 13, 2013 8:48 AM - petebklyn
why bother growing your own fresh tomatoes when you can buy canned italian tomato products that are actually from china?
April 13, 2013 8:50 AM - dibs
I have enough things already that are actually from China.
April 13, 2013 8:55 AM - petebklyn
did you say your brother teaches at Albany HS? have your read the controversy about the nazi writing assignment there?
April 13, 2013 8:55 AM - rf
Me too!
April 13, 2013 8:55 AM - dibs
Yes, he does. No, I haven't seen it. He teaches history.
April 13, 2013 8:56 AM - Partridge
Potatoes? That's a surprise. Are they special or better than market potatoes?
April 13, 2013 8:57 AM - petebklyn

Am sure will be all over national press and blogs now.
April 13, 2013 8:57 AM - Partridge
Where is the test held, rf?
April 13, 2013 8:58 AM - rf
She's taking it at Brooklyn Tech. She and 4 of her BFFs had a study session yesterday after school, into the night, during which there were many deep sighs.
April 13, 2013 9:00 AM - dibs
I just called him and asked if I could submit my essay by email!!!!

April 13, 2013 9:01 AM - dibs
Fresh dug potatoes are really very good. Even after a day, the sugars start to turn to starches quickly. Big difference.
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April 13, 2013 9:04 AM - dibs
And attached to that story was another one about "Jew Pond" in NH.

April 13, 2013 9:10 AM - pepper
Finally sunny and warm here. Not chili at all.
April 13, 2013 9:12 AM - dibs
49 here now. Only going up to 64
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April 13, 2013 9:15 AM - rf
I like 64 a lot better than 80!
April 13, 2013 9:23 AM - Partridge
Gorgeous day, I said. I agree, rf.

Thanks for the potato info. I don't know that.

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April 13, 2013 9:26 AM - petebklyn
pretty funny story in our beloved NYTImes(you know the one - where we learn how to think) today about the gardening club on Roosevelt Island.

April 13, 2013 9:29 AM - sixyearsandcounting
If used properly, that assignment could be very effective. A good teacher would have to debrief the class afterwards, the students could describe how easy it was to get caught up in a propaganda machine and spew things they know to be false, and (unless someone didn't do the work) why they followed the teacher's orders. That would be a very effective lesson and the students would never forget it.
April 13, 2013 9:33 AM - dibs
Highly unlikely that all of those variables come together correctly. Besides, the P.C. nazi already stepped in and put a stop to it.
April 13, 2013 9:34 AM - petebklyn
I can see that too, 6. I feel bad for the teacher who will now be subject to commenting and columns and snark from around the country.

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April 13, 2013 9:40 AM - dibs
Interesting, enlightened comment on it...

"Rabbi Donald P. Cashman of the B’nai Sholom Reform Congregation, the father of three Albany High graduates, was more forgiving. “Hypothetical situations are often effective teaching tools,” he said, and debating positions one may not believe in can also be valuable.

“We know it’s important for kids to get out of their comfort zones,” Rabbi Cashman said, adding that the assignment seemed to correspond with Holocaust Remembrance Day, known as Yom Hashoah, which was Monday."
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April 13, 2013 9:40 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Dobro jutro.

Six, please repost your post from last night, at some point when we're all done with breakfast.

Edited at April 13, 2013 9:40 AM
April 13, 2013 9:43 AM - petebklyn

In the NYTimes other day...Simon Guggenheim Memorial Foundation Fellows list for 2013 --
many many Brooklyn people in creative arts field...especially seem to dominate film-video category.
Demonstrated to me how Brooklyn has become influential in arts.
April 13, 2013 9:48 AM - BirdnestHead
Thought experiments! A subversive educational tool! Good Lord, do we really want thinking citizens here?

I've worked in nightclubs, where morons threaten to shoot you over the tiniest things, but don't really mean anything by it, and are easily ignored.

I've worked at an american college for 24 years, where everyone, including students, will get their fucking panties in a bunch at the drop of a hat, and threaten you with universal shunning, a consequence not to be taken lightly. And yet, somehow they claim to be in favour of free speech. Apparently they were never exposed to thought experimentation, leaving their brains flabby and undeveloped, if not actually vestigal.
April 13, 2013 9:52 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Pardon him, he hasn't had any breakfast yet...he gets like this sometimes... ; )
April 13, 2013 9:56 AM - dibs
Well get busy in the kitchen and cook him some, woman.
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April 13, 2013 10:02 AM - Partridge
I totally agree with you and the Rabbi, Six. The teacher's mistake was in not understanding the resulting outrage of the community. She should have cleared the assignment with her superiors first and should have toned down her enthusiasm for the position she was forcing upon them.

HS age seems to be when skinhead, neo-nazi types emerge.
April 13, 2013 10:04 AM - dibs
"HS age seems to be when skinhead, neo-nazi types emerge."

i never went the full skinhead route.
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April 13, 2013 10:05 AM - sixyearsandcounting
Cobble, are you done with breakfast yet?

""The routine of defecation goes to the root of citizenship. Defecation is (or should be) a daily function - to those suffering from the "almost universal complaint" it is apt to be a daily sacrament! If it can also be a daily discipline the foundation of good citizenship has been laid. Let me ordain where the nation shall defecate and I care not who make their laws."
- F.L. Brayne, British colonial official in India, sometime in the mid-1800s
April 13, 2013 10:08 AM - dibs
That probably led to the Fall of the Raj.
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April 13, 2013 10:13 AM - pepper
I have often thought that toilet paper was among the most important inventions. It allowed us to start using both hands for everything.
April 13, 2013 10:14 AM - dibs
There's a reason why they only use one hand in the Indian subcontinent when they eat with no utensils.
April 13, 2013 10:27 AM - sixyearsandcounting
"...the changed, and new, possibilities for action, for example with privacy, that followed from the arrival of running water in the home, not least the capacity to defecate in private. One should not underestimate this landmark in what has been called the history of shit."
- Patrick Joyce, "The Rule of Freedom"
April 13, 2013 10:31 AM - dibs
Sounds like you're looking for material to put together a syllabus, six
April 13, 2013 10:35 AM - Partridge
I've never visited India. Just once had a stopover in Delhi en route to Beijing. We landed on the tarmac just after sunrise and having a window seat, I was anxious to glean all I could about the place from that fleeting moment.

Farms lie adjacent to the runway. I saw workers out in the fields, each scattered pretty far apart from each other. They had no tools, no baskets or crates for collection. I, with the curiosity of a cat, watched. Dressed in lightweight shirts, they walked out a distance, pause and then squat.

It took me a while.
April 13, 2013 10:36 AM - Arkady
I have 8 mm home movie footage of planes arriving at DC airport (now Reagan) w/ fields of cows either side of the runway where Crystal City is now - taken in mid-40s.
April 13, 2013 10:38 AM - Arkady
Any suggestions of 'normal, American restaurant' in the Slope? Friend from Portland, OR wants 'regular' food such as pork chops. No foam nor exotic treatments of parts of poultry, not gluten-free & p.c., etc.
April 13, 2013 10:39 AM - sixyearsandcounting
What are his/her thoughts on cilantro, Arkady?
April 13, 2013 10:44 AM - Partridge
That's a tough one, Arkady!

How about Cafe Steinhof for 'normal Austrian food'.

The hostess/owner is a post-op if that's OK with your guest.
April 13, 2013 10:45 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
if you want basics, i'd say 200 fifth despite the noise later at night. try to avoid a big game night.
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April 13, 2013 10:47 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
or bonnie's grill or 12th street bar and grill
April 13, 2013 10:49 AM - sixyearsandcounting
Grand Canyon diner is pretty normal. Not very good though!
April 13, 2013 10:50 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
super greasy, but that works when you've had too much to drink ;-)
April 13, 2013 10:51 AM - Arkady
Anyone been to Stone Park Cafe recently?
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April 13, 2013 10:52 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
it's a smidge on the hoity-toidy park slope snooty side.
April 13, 2013 10:52 AM - Arkady
Going around 8 so 200 is out. No ambiance at Grand Canyon. Will look at 12th St.
April 13, 2013 10:53 AM - Arkady
PS snoot doesn't come close to Portland posh.
April 13, 2013 10:54 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
8 isn't so bad...just get out by about 9:30 or you'll be deafened.
April 13, 2013 10:54 AM - Arkady
12th St looks more precious than Stone Park.
April 13, 2013 10:55 AM - Arkady
Haven't seen him in 18 months - need much more than hour & a half.
April 13, 2013 10:56 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
oh, then no to 200.
April 13, 2013 10:56 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
12th is far less pretentious than stone park cafe.

bonnie's is small so you may have to wait on a table.
April 13, 2013 10:59 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
i know benchmark stunk for brunch, but maybe they are better for dinner?
April 13, 2013 11:01 AM - Arkady
No, even worse for dinner. Went w/ neighbor for a bday thing - god awful!!
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April 13, 2013 11:02 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
ugh. hard to imagine worse than brunch! that's a shame.
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April 13, 2013 11:02 AM - Arkady
12th St menu is too arch. I think I'll do Stone. (And it's closer to walk.)
April 13, 2013 11:04 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
report back on what you think of it.
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April 13, 2013 11:06 AM - Arkady
Will do. Haven't been there in a few years. Used to be pretty reliable.
April 13, 2013 11:12 AM - etson
Alchemy would fit the bill, in spite of the name.
April 13, 2013 11:15 AM - Partridge
April 13, 2013 11:17 AM - etson
It's been raining here all morning & all day yest. Clearing up now.
April 13, 2013 11:19 AM - Partridge
My gorgeous day is headed for Canada. :( for me :) for you, Etson.
April 13, 2013 11:40 AM - Arkady
Thanks, Etson. I like Alchemy - had forgotten it. Also thought of Osteria.
April 13, 2013 12:06 PM - Partridge
Convivium Osteria? I adore that place!
April 13, 2013 12:12 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
alchemy has yummy fish.
April 13, 2013 12:16 PM - Partridge
I go to Alchemy for happy hour deals. Mini burgers and yummy brussel sprouts. Shhh! Don't tell Cobble about the sprouts.
April 13, 2013 12:22 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
didn't know they had sprouts. will have to try them.
April 13, 2013 12:23 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
crap. now i'm hungry but still need to grocery shop.
April 13, 2013 12:24 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Eesh. I was up for a few hours, but now I have a headache and I'm exhausted. This cold really walloped me but good. The upside is that while I was up and about, I think I finally fixed my WWF app by moving it to ' the Cloud' and re-downloading it. I'm cautiously optimistic....

Speaking of the day...from my bed, where I've spent far more time than anywhere else this week, I recently realized that when the shades are up a bit and I am slouched down slightly, I have this wonderful rooftop view through the trees, that feels very New England town-ish, with roof peaks, weather vanes and chimneys. And I have a view of the sunrise.
April 13, 2013 12:26 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Sprouts...blech! Where is Alchemy?
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April 13, 2013 12:28 PM - Partridge
Did Fresh Direct deliver yet, Cobble? What time is dinner? What should we all bring?
April 13, 2013 12:29 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Fresh Direct had a free delivery promo for the weekend. I took them up on it. Yes, they arrived at about 10:30, all unpacked.
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April 13, 2013 12:29 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
alchemy is on 5th ave in north slope
April 13, 2013 12:30 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
gotta love the f.d.
April 13, 2013 12:31 PM - Partridge
Alchemy peeps recently opened Hamilton on Ft Hamilton. Great addition to the Kensington area.
April 13, 2013 12:32 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Dinner is when BH decides he's making the salmon and spinach!

I thought he might pop in on you!
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April 13, 2013 12:32 PM - Partridge
Had a quick visit from The Big Man. Very handsome today.
April 13, 2013 12:36 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
salmon and spinach??? i'll be there ;-)
April 13, 2013 12:41 PM - Cobble B. Hiller

I ordered a ton of spinach, we'll be eating it all week!
April 13, 2013 12:42 PM - etson
"I think I finally fixed my WWF app by moving it to ' the Cloud' and re-downloading it"

Cobble is a wrestling fan? Who knew??
April 13, 2013 12:44 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Friends of mine had various nicknames for my father, one of them was 'The Big Man'. He and BH would be eye to eye.
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April 13, 2013 12:46 PM - Partridge
I read that as World Wrestling Federation or World Wildlife Fund.
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April 13, 2013 12:49 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
LOL! Not quite but almost, etson! Words with Friends. I have a few very challenging partners.

I think one is a Brit, from the North.
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April 13, 2013 12:56 PM - Deleted
ew! Not something wants to see each time they open this thread. The presentation of that plate looks like multiple poops coming out of a busted anus with a side of STD.

April 13, 2013 12:57 PM - etson
"I think one is a Brit, from the North."

Those are the best kind. He / she must be smart!
April 13, 2013 12:59 PM - etson
That comment says a lot more about you than the photo, of course.
April 13, 2013 1:01 PM - Deleted
So mad I slept in. GRRRRR. just got up a little while ago. time to change the tanks
April 13, 2013 1:02 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
He is, etson, one of my 4 very best competitors.
April 13, 2013 1:02 PM - pepper
AND, we're back to poop... never takes long. I did my best in selecting the photo...
April 13, 2013 1:04 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Rob, does it ever occur to you that you do not have to *share* every single thought that crosses your twisted mind?
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April 13, 2013 1:08 PM - Deleted
Oh Cobble... I hold back more than my poop! much, much more!

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April 13, 2013 1:11 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Perhaps if you didn't hold back your poop, you would be more, I dunno, relaxed, at peace with the universe. It's not good for you, you know.
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April 13, 2013 1:14 PM - Partridge
It makes me wonder the nature of the comments he DOES edit out.
April 13, 2013 1:21 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
The mind boggles...
April 13, 2013 1:23 PM - Deleted
Wow it's REALLY nice out, is tomorrow going to be this nice? If i can get everything i have to done today (woke up SO late) i can enjoy all day tomorrow. Ugh then it's Monday already

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April 13, 2013 1:24 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Hey, pepper, how much longer is your trip? Do you ever travel out to the countryside or to the coast?
April 13, 2013 1:25 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Rob, Try to just think about today, poop, and enjoy it!
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April 13, 2013 1:34 PM - pepper
Hey Cobble. I leave here on Monday. Overnight in Munich, back to NYC on Tues. Yes, we do go to the country sometimes, but not this trip. And we have spent a few of my trips over on the Croatian Coast (plus I spent a long time traveling the coast before I met the Beau) - it's wonderful there. But with the Beau's current work schedule, we haven't been able to do that recently.
April 13, 2013 1:41 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
I spoke to soon, I think this app is corrupted. : (
April 13, 2013 1:44 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
What's the nightlife like? Do you go out to dinner with friends, hear music, hang out at home, bars?
April 13, 2013 1:45 PM - pepper
That stinks. I'm currently trying to find a word to beat you with ;)
April 13, 2013 1:50 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Lol, shouldn't be too difficult, you've been doing a fine job so far!

I may have uninstall, buy a new copy and install. It keeps logging me out and making me force quit and re-login. Annoying.
April 13, 2013 1:52 PM - pepper
Yeah, we used to do all that. Especially when he was working at the restaurant. We'd be out until 3, 4 or 5 every night. My schedule was such a mess then. I'd basically get up, have coffee and get ready to go to dinner.

Now, we've fallen into a routine of having a big, long lunch every day and then just hanging at home mostly at night. We got back from lunch today around 6:30... Saturday nights are really big nights around here, but that's about it.
April 13, 2013 2:12 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Oy, I used to be friends with some restaurant people. We'd meet to go out at 11 or 11:30...I'm exhausted just thinking about it!
April 13, 2013 2:21 PM - RowerChick
Just read the Roosevelt article. Loved it. Curious how gardening inspires infidelity.
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April 13, 2013 2:26 PM - pepper
I AM glad those days are over.
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April 13, 2013 2:57 PM - Deleted
Conundrum. Can't decide If I want to do total tank makeovers, but that is SO time consuming, and I love it, but just want to get this done right now cuz I have so much laundry and cleaning to do. Relandscaping and decorating will turn what is a 2 hour job into 4. And sadly I just got caught up in the interwebz of pornographic material for the last hour or so :-/ Another hour down the drain.

April 13, 2013 2:59 PM - Deleted
Question... Can I put fish stuff, like decorations, stones, gravel, plants, etc in the dishwasher? I have never used the dishwasher here. We keep our recycling in it. I would just use plain hot water, no soap obviously, but because the dishwasher has never been used, would that be problematic? I feel like putting all the stuff in the dishwasher, let it run, would save me a lot of time from hand cleaning each thing. And while it's running I can empty the tanks, put in new water, and condition the water.

Otherwise I have to clean each thing by hand under hot hot water, lay them out, etc.
April 13, 2013 3:02 PM - Deleted
"restaurant people" are SOOOOOOOOOO different than other people. Also, they pretty much ALL smoke. They have a high rate of coke usage as well. Okay I need to stop procrastinating. Charlize Theron is looking at me being like, bitch where's my fresh water?

April 13, 2013 3:02 PM - sixyearsandcounting
April 13, 2013 3:04 PM - Deleted
Also please please PLEASE take down that picture in the header of this thread? It's starting to look like if pinworms mated and morphed with giant cows or something. blech! that has got to be the most unappetizing dish I have EVER seen. And I grew up in NJ in the 80s and 90s!

April 13, 2013 3:27 PM - Deleted
Ugh, I need to start changing fish tank day to Friday nights. I am way more into it than on a Saturday I've noticed. I almost want to put it off to tomorrow, but that would be a really bad habit to get into. Okay, going to be a good parent to my scale babies now. Catching them in the mason jars is the hardest part. Dudley goes right in on command with no issues. Catching Dinky Pinky II and Charlize Theron is really difficult. Jamie Lee, er, it's like putting a body into a body bag. No fight or difficulty. She just plops right in.

I am thinking about putting Dudley's girlfriend, Yvette Turtle (dont worry she's plastic) in Jamie Lee's tank to stir it up a little. Would that be mean to Dudley (he LOVES her). And would it annoy Jamie Lee or would that be good for her? I have some other plastic animals that came with the set, I think a shark and a whale and some other random little mermaids and stuff. NONE of my fish ever liked the mermaids I put in their tanks though. In fact, Dudley was outright Bitchy about the mermaid I put in his tank. Literally he kept ramming into her hard over and over until she fell down off top the Roman Columns and he had a smug look on his face after he did that, like he accomplished something big.

Shit gotta run, I took out the dividers between the tanks and Charlie and Dudley are flaring (puffing up their chests like goombas puff up their chests when they seem competition) at each other, except it's their gills or something.

April 13, 2013 3:28 PM - Deleted
THE worst part of doing these tank changes is moving cords around, arranging lights and heaters and my laptop and not getting electrocuted lol.

April 13, 2013 3:34 PM - Arkady
rob - Get one of those little aquarium nets - makes catching them a lot easier.
April 13, 2013 4:13 PM - Deleted
Nah, its actually a lot easier feeding them and letting them go right into the mason jar with their water already in the tank. tons less stress, and nets are bad for bettas scales and slimecoat. I do have on in case I really cant get one in the mason jar. FYI I need to really get to the pet store and get Dudley a working heater. His flat out doesnt work. All the other three have Top Fin brands and they work. His is called Zoo Med and it does not work. Yet he is my liveliest fun fish and seems to have no probs with the water a little cooler than the rest. The heaters are cheap though. Im tempted to go into manhattan and get a new heater for Dud's tank and replace Jamie Lee. She is just flat out miserable. The thought of flushing a live fish though sounds mean to me :( But I am tired of this, I've tried so much with him. I keep flipping back and forth between it being a he and a she, it's officially a he. When you look at all four of my tanks, three of them are swimming around having fun and he still just plops on his side and looks all miserable. Would it bad to flush him and get a Jamie Lee 2.0? A female Jamie Lee this time, plus i'd have two male and two female again. I think i'd feel foolish bringing a 5 dollar fish to the vet as well. Would it be wrong to freeze her in a mason jar in the freezer? Then he'd be forever frozen (well as long as there's no blackout) and I think it would be less cruel than flushing him, no? When you freeze to death you actually wind up getting super hot and warm right before dying and it's a very peaceful way to die really. I think Jamie Lee wants me to put him out of his misery. Sounds a tad Dr. Kavorkian. :(

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April 13, 2013 4:20 PM - Deleted
GRRRR I am so torn on this issue. I've never had a fish die naturally on me (at least not these fish Ive been keeping lately). Dinky I was brutally murdered by Heidi Fleiss, that was bad enough to deal with. Then Heidi Fleiss just went missing. Imagine being a parent and one of your kids was murdered by one of your other kids and then that kid that murdered your other kid went MISSING! :-/ But then you still have a disabled kid and you feel like it's best to put it down because of it's disability? Okay, I have decided to keep Jamie Lee as long as he is still alive. Perhaps he just enjoys sleeping on his side. I sleep on my side! When I pick up Dudley's heater on Monday I am going to see if I can buy Jamie Lee some LIVE bloodworms. I can't believe I entertained the thought of killing one of my fish. Have I completely forgotten the misery I went through when I put Duke down!? Ugh. Maybe I'm a sociopath :(

April 13, 2013 4:22 PM - dibs
Yes, put them in the dishwasher. I soaked all my fake plants in a diluted bleach and water to get algae off
April 13, 2013 4:31 PM - Deleted
have come across articles about this new rapper everywhere the last month. transgender from nyc. sounds sorta like busta rhymes

April 13, 2013 4:34 PM - dibs
I can see myself going to clubs listening to transgendered rappers
April 13, 2013 4:57 PM - Deleted
Oh that transgendered rapper was on the cover of last week's voice. So im chary. so sounds fun, but havent heard.

April 13, 2013 5:10 PM - Deleted
Rob the chary bomb. Hahah.
April 13, 2013 5:17 PM - Deleted
I'm also chary. Don't think he (she?) would be getting much press if they were just a straight dude and not in the "art world".
April 13, 2013 5:30 PM - Partridge
This thing just pulled up in front. Dude gets out and snaps a pic of the El Camino parked in front of Seersucker (a participant). Are we jazzed yet?
April 13, 2013 5:38 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
I didn't go last time, and I can't picture us going this time. If I recall correctly, it was a huge clusterf*ck, with long lines, ran out of food and booze and no ice on a HOT day. Oh, and people couldn't find the entrances! No thanks!
April 13, 2013 5:39 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
And some dumb thing with buying tickets before you could stand on another line to buy whatever.
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April 13, 2013 5:41 PM - sixyearsandcounting
El Al's take on the in-flight bag-wearing Orthodox guy:
April 13, 2013 5:52 PM - Deleted
lol, I like "chary bomb". wtf are you talking about cobble? that moonfacemooga googa thingie? I saw they are attempting it again. I can't stand festivals and events where it's literally 100% white across the board (sorry but token asians dont count really). Did you see that last picture on brownstoner of the smorgasborg/flea. good god, do they have signs up that say "no blacks and browns" allowed? or do black and brown people just find that shit overpriced and corny. Im guessing a little of both!

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April 13, 2013 5:58 PM - Deleted
Yes, put them in the dishwasher. I soaked all my fake plants in a diluted bleach and water to get algae off

Um yeah... "plants", right dave...

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April 13, 2013 6:02 PM - Deleted
I can't stand Jamie Lee struggling like this anymore. He is still upside down now, his mini fins don't flitter at ALL. He is definitely alive, but this is just awful. Going to Petsmart in SoHo and getting a heater for Dudley's tank and getting a replacement fish for Jamie Lee's tank. I can't watch him suffer like this anymore, and in a sense I am rescuing one from PetSmart from a tiny cup, so it's a good thing, right?

Edited at April 13, 2013 6:02 PM
April 13, 2013 6:04 PM - Deleted
omfg wtf. If anyone wants to LOL x 100000 call the petsmart in soho... 212 475 0893. It's an automated voice, is there something wrong with my phone!? what is UP with that voice!?

April 13, 2013 6:05 PM - Deleted
That picture of smorg was funny.

Yeah - googamooga was a shitshow last year supposedly. I didn't go bc those food festivals are always awful. I'd like to see the yeah yeah yeahs - but they have a new album coming out so I'm sure thy will be playing other venues
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April 13, 2013 6:10 PM - Deleted
Er, well now Jamie Lee is looking right at me and swimming like he knows my plan. But now, back on his side.
Edited at April 13, 2013 6:10 PM
April 13, 2013 6:10 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Hey, DH, did I tell you that a friend of BH's gave us a copy of the new David Bowie. Because we're olds, we haven't actually listened to it yet. : P

Yeah, we prefer the restaurant model for our commercial food consumption! Give us a damn table and chair, a menu, bring us food, and we will pay you.
April 13, 2013 6:11 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Face it, rob, the fish is playing you.
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April 13, 2013 6:14 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Oops, time to take the invalid(me) for a walk and fresh air...back later.
April 13, 2013 6:35 PM - etson
LOL at Rob trying to rationalize murdering one of his 'scale babies'.

Maybe you should move here when your lease expires:
Edited at April 13, 2013 6:35 PM
April 13, 2013 6:39 PM - Deleted
OKay opted not to go into manhattan for a new fish and put jamie lee down and do laundry instead. there's a ginormous tv outside that I want take in my apartment but it's SO heavy. I regret getting rid of my other giant tv to fit this stupid new chair (which i HATE) in my room. Waiting for my roommate to leave so I can see if I can sneak it in my room without looking gross. hate going out there when he is home cuz new dog bites the shit out of me, jumps on me, rips my clothes, and bites my shoes. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. when he leaves, he puts the dog in his cage.

April 13, 2013 6:46 PM - Deleted
Nevermind. It would be stupid to bring a ginormous CRT tv in this bedroom again, the reason I got rid of the last one was because it weighed like 500 pounds. Even tho old school video games look SO much better on old tvs, I think flat screens have gotten much much much cheaper. And easier to move. Plus who knows if it has roaches.

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April 13, 2013 7:14 PM - Deleted
Does anyone else hoarde stupid tshirts they are NEVER going to wear again, EVER? Or never even in the first place? I'm in a pretty good cleaning kick right now, doing laundry, etc. My room is always SO neat and organized, but my dirty little secret is always my closets. they are always a MESS! I can never get them organized and they make my brain hurt when I attempt to.

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April 13, 2013 7:19 PM - Arkady
I have a bunch of tees I've never worn & never will but people have given them to me or they're associated w/ some event so I can't let go of them.
April 13, 2013 7:25 PM - Deleted
Yeah, I think that's the issue I have with them. Well, sorta. I still have tons that are tied to no people or no event and are either way too big or way too small. I think I am just going to start using them to sop up water on fish tank cleaning day. I go through like half a roll of paper towels each time I change their tanks, no matter HOW careful I am!

April 13, 2013 7:44 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Lovely stroll down into the 'Land of Mansions'...Weeping Cherry trees, Forsythia, Hyacinth, Daffodils, Tulips, and lots of this tree/bush that I loved when I saw it at the BBG last year, but can never remember it's name, and Hellabore.
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April 13, 2013 7:49 PM - Partridge
The Big Man took his Little Lady out for a walk. Nice. I don't know that tree/bush pictured. Lovely!
April 13, 2013 7:52 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Yes, the (not-so little) lady needed it. I've been so knocked out. I need to join the land of the living again. ; )

The Hellabore (above)^^^ is low to the ground - there are other colors - muted tones, some purple-ish, they're neat. I'm still looking for a pic of the tree/bush I'm talking about.
Edited at April 13, 2013 7:53 PM
April 13, 2013 7:58 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Ah, here it is...does anyone know the name? Lots of it around here.
April 13, 2013 7:59 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
More Hellabore...
April 13, 2013 8:00 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
If I owned one of these big houses, I think I'd paint it those colors. ^^^^
April 13, 2013 8:05 PM - Partridge
Googling bell flowers bush gave me Andromeda. Maybe???

Love, love that photo above of the Hellobores.
April 13, 2013 8:05 PM - Deleted
"hellabore" sounds about right for that flower. lol. Love the name hellabore hahhah. Sorry im cranky right now cuz im doing laundry, and ONCE again I left something in my pocket (tissues?) that exploded on everything and I have fuzz and particles all over one of my load's clothes, GRRRRRRRRRRR. Of course it wasnt in my dainties' load (i.e. underwear, socks, and tshirts, towels), it HAD to be in my work clothes load or shirts and pants. GRRRRRR

April 13, 2013 8:11 PM - Deleted
Still have two more loads to do as well. NEVER again am I combining fish tank changing day and laundry day :-/ what was I thinking? No wonder hausfrau drink and pop pills! This shit is MADDENING! I never even got around to doing the floors! At least there's no husband about to come home and beat me lol.

April 13, 2013 8:18 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Aren't those colors great? Can you see one of these big victorians painted in those colors?! Delish!
April 13, 2013 8:19 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Yes! That's it!
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April 13, 2013 8:20 PM - Deleted
It just hit me, the ONLY good thing about dogs that you can't do wish fish is dress them up in outfits. Someone needs to create outfits for fish that wouldn't hurt or harm them, but just make them look even more fabulous than they already do!

I'm glad I didn't flush Jamie Lee today :)

After all the work I did today I deserve a beach day tomorrow, even if it's going to be cold, as long as it's sunny, and the water will be the same temp as when I went into it last week it shouldn't be a big deal.

April 13, 2013 8:21 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
We're thankful that you didn't murder your fish today, too, rob. : )
April 13, 2013 8:28 PM - Deleted
Yeah, it would have just ended in a gazillion posts about feeling guilty for killing my fish. He's swimming aroung great right now. I guess he just likes to chill on his sides and sometimes completely upside down.
April 13, 2013 8:36 PM - Deleted
Haven't even thought about dinner yet. What kind of frau am I!??! I think I am going to head over to associated to treat myself to some Chicken Voila! for dinner tonight, even though it's not on sale, come back take a bubble bath with my new Hello Kitty bubble bath from my cousin, and watch Mermaids online (wait, that's the Cher and Winona Ryder and Christiina Ricci movie was was AWESOME and loved it, but I am thinking of the one with the one with Darryl Hannah as a mermaid. WHat was the name of that one? Just Mermaid? Ugh, I think that bore tom hanks is in that movie though, he RUINED it, but I havent seen it since I was a kid).
April 13, 2013 8:38 PM - Donatella

That is a beautiful picture of the Hellabores, Cobble. I want to use that on my iphone. (I used another winter picture of a tree that you posted on my iphone cover).

I did a lot of errands today and went to a baby shower (not my favorite thing to do). On the way back from S.I., I stopped at Rossman Farms on 3rd Ave and 26th St. in Brooklyn. I got an astounding amount of food for 51 dollars. I love that place. An example, strawberries 78 cents for a pound of strawberries, 68 cents a pound for golden delicious apples, large yogurt for 1.78, 8 navel oranges for 98 cents, 1 GALLON of milk for 1,79 (unbelievable). R is working. I am still coughing so I plan to watch some Foyle's War (BBC Mystery series) on Netflix. And get a good night sleep.

April 13, 2013 8:40 PM - Donatella
Rob, Splash?
April 13, 2013 8:44 PM - Deleted
I need to stock up on fruit a place like that. Produce is expensive, I don't care what people say. Well, maybe not if you buy the pound and it it immediately in smoothies or something. I've given up on buying lettuce and anything related cuz I love lettuce, but shit goes bad SO fast. I pop a jolly rancher now and then telling myself there's your fruit, you fruit, and somehow I justify it. But that's bad. I should at least kick it up a notch to Starburst (tropical, not original).

OOOOOOOOOOOOOH I was going to mention this the other day. I got a spam mail at work about the 5 fruit tree! I was like wtf, googled it and apparently there are trees that grow five different kinds of fruits!? Apparently they exist. that's awesome!

April 13, 2013 8:44 PM - Deleted
SPLASH! Yes, thanks! hahahahha that movie was awesome!
Except for tom hanks. Who ruins every movie he touches.

April 13, 2013 8:50 PM - Donatella

rob, I will take you there some time if you want to go. Everything is super cheap.
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April 13, 2013 8:50 PM - Partridge
Rob, how exactly did your first fish die? Dinky, right? I know you blame it on Heidi, but what happened?
April 13, 2013 9:01 PM - petebklyn
don't mommy him. he can walk his sorry butt there on his own.
April 13, 2013 9:01 PM - Deleted
Holy shit. When did 5th avenue in park slope turn in Murray Hill? It's a giant bro and sex in the city fest outside right now. Barf. I feel like just 1-2 years ago I was complaining about it being a moonface fest. Where did the moonfaces go? I think i'd prefer them to what I just witnessed walking to and from the supermarket!
April 13, 2013 9:03 PM - petebklyn
I'm back from wedding. Lesbi's nephew (who is about 45) ...lives in some sort of assisted living place. Lot of the residents were guests. Quite nice that he has some happiness with all his medical issues (recent years) and psychological issues (longtime).
April 13, 2013 9:05 PM - Donatella

lol, Pete. It's a mile walk from Rob's house. But I guess with one of those shopping carts, rob could buy a haul and bring it back.
April 13, 2013 9:05 PM - Partridge
That's nice, Pete.
April 13, 2013 9:06 PM - Deleted
Rob, how exactly did your first fish die? Dinky, right? I know you blame it on Heidi, but what happened?

I was under the impression that you can put female bettas in the same tank. They were fine for two days. It was weird because Dinky was the one who kept pestering Heidi Fleiss at first, but then they seemed to get along and stuff and ignore each other. It was fine for two days, but came home from work to find Dinky with a giant flesh wound laying on the side of her cave and Heidi just flitting about like nothing happened :( I now know you can't really introduce even female bettas into other female bettas tanks cuz of territorial issues. You need to have a harem all introduced at once if you want to do that, in a BIG tank.

Heidi Fleiss though, just totally disappeared when I was changing tanks. They were all in their little mason jars, but when it was time to put them back in their tanks, she was not in her mason jar. I looked EVERYWHERE and couldn't find it. She couldn't have jumped out. I dont know, most likely I probably poured the water a little too heavy handed and she went down the sink drain? She was tiny.

April 13, 2013 9:06 PM - Partridge
R train easy for him and very close.
April 13, 2013 9:08 PM - Deleted
Lesbi's nephew (who is about 45) ...lives in some sort of assisted living place.

Maybe Lesbi's newphew should stop being "mommied" too. :-/ Stop accusing people here of mommying me, I havent been mommied or had to rely on anyone in a really long time. I'm a grown ass man who gets along in life just fine thank you very much!

April 13, 2013 9:10 PM - Partridge
Oh, ok, got it. Thanks for the explanation. So all the kids will always be in their our separate playpens.
April 13, 2013 9:12 PM - petebklyn
cranky tonight, rob?
April 13, 2013 9:12 PM - Deleted
Yeah, they've all been in their own tanks since then. I would have saved so much money had I thought to just get one giant tank with fish that get along to begin with :-/ NOw I have hours of work every Saturday tending to them. (tho I secretly love it). I like them all having their own rooms. I think when kids have to share rooms it's child abuse. My grandparents felt the same way.

April 13, 2013 9:13 PM - Donatella

Well, thanks for that explanation, rob. I was wondering how Heidi Fleiss could have disappeared.
April 13, 2013 9:14 PM - Deleted
Not cranky at ALL, actually in a great mood. Got all my fish duty done, laundry done, gonna make dinner in a bit, bubble bath, etc. Going to the beach tomorrow. You however, come out of no where sometimes with your little snippety comments that are supposed to ruffle my feathers (newsflash, I dont HAVE feathers!), are the one who comes across as cranky all the time.

April 13, 2013 9:16 PM - petebklyn
sorry if I'm making you defensive
April 13, 2013 9:17 PM - Donatella

I was very excited about having goldfish but they didn't do well. I got a 2.5 gallon tank but that was probably much too small for 2 gold fish. I later read that goldfish produce a lot of waste and that they need a big tank (10 gallons). The tank I bought had a filter, but they didn't last long. It was sad because I really wanted them. A 10 gallon tank is pretty large just to have two gold fish. Or maybe the place where I bought them was selling me sick fish. The experience was very discouraging. Maybe betta fish are better.
April 13, 2013 9:20 PM - petebklyn
betta fish are just goldfish that are dyed a color and then sold for lot more money to people who think they are cool.
April 13, 2013 9:21 PM - Deleted
I was wondering how Heidi Fleiss could have disappeared.

Well as of now it's an unsolved mystery. A cold case, kinda. Betta fish originally came from Thailand. They lived in shallow mudprints of big animals like elephants and water buffalo. She could theoretically be living anywhere. But yeah, most likely the little female killer fish is dead. Karma's a bitch like that.

Poor Dudley has seen so much fish drama rama in the last 5 months. He keeps his cool though. Pinky Dinky II is great (she looks like like the original pinky) and Charlize Theron "Charlie" is a GINORMOUS male version with a pretty silk purple pink satin tail of the Dinky's...

When/If Jamie Lee dies, I am going to get a filter and air bubbler for that tank and get a totally different kind of fish. Or a frog or something. Whatever can live in a 2.5 gallon tank on it's own happily.

NO GOLDFISH though. Some are really cute, but it would be mean, no. Dont they all get super big if you take care of them?! they only die little when they are not taken care of? I am thinking of maybe a catfish! Or a shrimp or snail.

Too bad I don't have pinworms anymore like I did as a kid, I could just dip my butt in the tank and have a school of pinworms swimming around!

April 13, 2013 9:24 PM - Deleted
betta fish are just goldfish that are dyed a color and then sold for lot more money to people who think they are cool.

:-/ I never accuse people of trolling (hate that word) but you are SO doing it.

Donna, 2.5 gallons for 2 goldfish is small. Goldfish are feeder fish. You either feed them to people or they just get ginormous. I like the ones with the bulgey eyes though and the pouty lips hahahah.

April 13, 2013 9:25 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
New David Bowie: Quite good. Now listening to Lodger, at BH's request.

That's so nice, dona, I'm glad you like them. I found them on the interwebs. : )

Pete, you old pot-stirrer, how the heck are you! Glad to hear the nephew will have a little love and light in his life.
April 13, 2013 9:28 PM - petebklyn
believe what you like.
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April 13, 2013 9:28 PM - Deleted
Here is this weeks tank set up... A little similar to last, but a lil different.

Edited at April 13, 2013 9:28 PM
April 13, 2013 9:31 PM - Donatella
I just did it Cobble. They are on the "lock screen" on the iphone, the one that the phone defaults to when you don't use it for a while. Looks beautiful.

Rob, I can't focus on fish now, but when my life gets a little more in order (my business really gets going) I am going to dust off that 2.5 gallon tank and get a betta fish. Maybe you can advise me.

Well, I am going to watch my Netflix show now. "Night everyone.
April 13, 2013 9:33 PM - Deleted
believe what you like.

And I will.

Fugly old rowhomes in brooklyn are marked up 5x as much because people "think they are cool". Organic food is marked up 5x as much because people "think they are cool". Where are you going with this? We all have our priorities. At least Im not a gullible idiot to spend 10x the amount of money on the same food you get with non organic, and the same idiot who spends 4 million dollars for a miserable rowhouse in the ghetto. Stop hating so much, everyone has their priorities. Fine you can make fun of me for buying "glorified goldfish" which they are NOT, but I sure as hell will make fun of people for paying millions of dollars for shitty houses and thousands of extra dollars a year on faux organic food that they think makes any lick a difference their overall health.

We are ALL retards, the WHOLE human race.

But my fish > your houses > the overpriced stuff you stick down your gullets.

April 13, 2013 9:37 PM - rf
Gee, talk about haters!
April 13, 2013 9:41 PM - Deleted
Rob, I can't focus on fish now, but when my life gets a little more in order (my business really gets going) I am going to dust off that 2.5 gallon tank and get a betta fish. Maybe you can advise me.

YAY! A convert! I would love to be your mentor in you getting a betta scale baby of your own!!! They are so easy to take care of. If you get one maybe we can start our own brooklyn betta parents blog! Give out corny ass advice, shun people who's beliefs don't fall in line with our own, pat ourselves on the backs everytime they eat a pellet, and sniff our own bubble bath farts! It's starting to become clearer and clearer to me these days that my fish keeping is some kinda of perverse, up until now a totally subconscious, Park Slope performance art piece on being a parent in this ridiculous environment.

April 13, 2013 9:49 PM - Deleted
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! Damn moonface mommas boys who live in this building! WHen you open a running dryer to see if the clothes are dry and they are not and you close it, you have to hit START again! UGH! I HATE this. My shit was wet in the dryer just now with some pale faced fool sitting there in the laundry room asking me when I was picking up my laundry. HELLO ASSFACE, NOW if you actually hit START again on the damn dryer. How stupid are people these days!? I just had to waste more money and more time just because he sat in the laundry room, opened my dryer, and then didnt hit start to finish the cycle that I PAID for?

April 13, 2013 9:54 PM - Partridge
How do you know that he opened it and didnt hit start? Maybe the dryer isn't working properly.
April 13, 2013 10:16 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Or just needed more time?
April 13, 2013 10:44 PM - Deleted
Cuz I am not a moron and know how long it takes to wash and dry clothes, I am always on time, I am respectful to the other people who have to share the laundry room. He was just a moron. Whatever, the look I gave him will have him screaming back home to mommy about how to do his laundry and she will tell him to either go to a fluff and fold place or just fed ex it to her and she will overnight it back to him.
April 13, 2013 10:45 PM - Deleted
There are three places in life people don't wanna mess with me.

1.) the laundry room
2.) the train
3.) thrift stores

April 13, 2013 10:47 PM - Deleted
Because I will turn into a hybrid of white trash, ghetto, and ferral all in one instant!
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April 13, 2013 10:52 PM - Deleted
and add a # 4) dont mess with me at the beach either.

April 13, 2013 11:17 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Ok, ok, take it easy there. Oy.
April 13, 2013 11:21 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
April 13, 2013 11:23 PM - Deleted
Sorry, I've noticed i've been getting a little testy these days. The biggest perk, sadly that I have ONLY recognized as of last summer, is that I am 1/2 an hour from the beach from where I live on the subway! I piss on my own face metaphorically for not having taken advantage of it the prior 3 years. THAT is the perk I get from living here. half an hour to the beach and half an hour to work! That is my IDEAL! Yet people think ammenities are things like beer gardens (overpriced shit filled with strollers and cry babies and dads wearing slings), organic food markets (again, overpriced shit), yoga studios (hello, you can't make poses where it's looking like you are going down on yourself at HOME? Hells I try to do that all the time!), and other such non sense. And people in this neighborhood get uglier and uglier :( I miss walking around a neighborhood and seeing attractive people, but in this neighborhood not so much. At least I work in SoHo and, while it's a mega shitshow, you get people from EVERYWHERE so there are always attractive people walking around. There is none of that in park slope. Who wants to live in a neighborhood where everyone you see you think is fuggo?!

Edited at April 13, 2013 11:23 PM
April 13, 2013 11:26 PM - Deleted
and yeah fugly is totally subjective, I realize that. It just seems there is a higher concentration of ugly people in park slope these days and almost a 2-3% population who are even remotely attractive (at least to me anyway). Not to mention it's turned into bro-ville and a bunch of wannabe cankle queens so don't even go there saying im just saying this cuz it's a "family" neighborhood. There's a lot of nightlife in park slope these days, but damn, WOOF!

April 13, 2013 11:33 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Hi Snaps, the OT is currently being held captive by rob's brain.

Hey, rob, would you like your own thread to rant in?
Edited at April 13, 2013 11:33 PM
April 13, 2013 11:44 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
i see...
April 13, 2013 11:55 PM - Arkady
Stone Park was excellent! (Other than a loud party but them's the breaks.) Walked right by rob's house but didn't see him (but wonder if my friend & I were perceived as moonfaces.)
I have hellebores - they're terrific & have been blooming since New Year's - are about to be over for the year.
Goldfish are good pets - eat from your hand.

April 14, 2013 12:49 AM - CGar
Edited at April 14, 2013 12:49 AM
April 14, 2013 12:53 AM - Deleted

Location: Ohio
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I have been single most of my adult life and have always had to pay full taxes with only the standard deduction.

Yes, I had the freedom to make my own decisions, didn't have to take care of anyone else except my pets, etc., etc.

I also had no one there to help me when needed......no one to help me move a piece of furniture, no one to pick me up if my car broke down, no one to take me to the hospital and sit by my side, no one to help me make a difficult decision.

People like to point out that because they had children, they should get a break.

But, when do I get my break?

Those who got all of the tax breaks for having children, also reap the benefits of having those children.....I do not......even though I paid more in taxes so they could pay less.

When they get old and need help.....they can call upon their children......to drive them to the doctor, take them to the store, help them move......who do I call?

Yep, I call their children......and I have to pay them a pretty penny for everything they do for me.

Need a ride to the store? $$$ Need help moving? $$$ Need someone to mow the yard because I hurt my ankle? $$$ Need someone to shovel the driveway when I have the flu? $$$

I know some married couples, who when one of them dies.....the other is nearly helpless.....because their spouse always took care of the money, the car, the yard......I, on the other hand, know how to do all of these things.

My point?

There are down sides and perks in all of our choices.....remaining single, remaining childless, having children.....regardless.....I think we should all pay a flat tax without deductions because of the lifestyle we choose.

Read more: http://www.city-data.com/forum/economics/1826155-do-people-who-never-marry-get-2.html#ixzz2QKOEj6fq
April 14, 2013 1:17 AM - Deleted
TipsDo not put the fish in the freezer or in cold water before incapacitating it. Unlike humans who fall asleep and die from the freezing temperatures, fish can actually feel the ice crystals forming on their skin causing immense pain and suffering before death. Fish do not pass out from cold as humans would and tend to live for hours at extreme temperatures before death.
Do not flush the fish down the toilet. Not only can this spread disease to local waters if the fish was ill, but the fish could still be alive and could regain consciousness in the sewer waters.

I don't know... I am trying to find ways to humanely put Jamie Lee down :(

I can't watch this anymore...

April 14, 2013 1:22 AM - Deleted
the fish could still be alive and could regain consciousness in the sewer waters.

Wait, wasn't that how the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles started!? Some idiot dumped turtles down the toilet and they wound up being the Ninja Turtles in the sewars!?!?

There's a cat up the street (well down the street) that people feed all the time (which I find nasty!). Should I fry Jamie Lee up put a little spices on him and feed it to the cat? Gah! I can't deal with putting down another pet, but it's not right he is up like this, he is not having a good life at ALL.

I also want four perfect fishies in my tanks, not three fun ones and one lame one. I don't get paid for this you know, it's not like teaching special ed kids!

April 14, 2013 8:14 AM - BoerumHillScott
Site was down this morning, and I'm not quite sure why.
The good news is that I will be moving the site to a new server soon, and the new server will be better (no more out of memory errors) and considerably cheaper than where we are now.
Edited at April 14, 2013 8:14 AM
April 14, 2013 8:16 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
mornin' scott :-) lemme know if there's anything i can do to help on the back end.

how are ya?
April 14, 2013 8:17 AM - dibs
GM. Thanks, Scott.

April 14, 2013 8:17 AM - petebklyn
now beside betta fish we're going to have a betta server.
where does it end?
April 14, 2013 8:37 AM - Deleted
oof.. lol. im up bright and early this morning for a change. It's GORGEOUS out! heading to the beach in a bit!

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April 14, 2013 8:47 AM - CGar
^^^In case any of you is thinking that I'm wishing M&Ms - the candy - a Happy Birthday, you're even bigger morons than I'd thought, which I didn't think was even possible. It's MM's Birthday. MM, as in Montrose Morris. Unlike "some" of you, I don't anthropomorphize inanimate objects. (Though, much to my dismay, I learned yesterday that MM and bxgrl have named MM's car.)
Edited at April 14, 2013 8:48 AM
April 14, 2013 8:53 AM - Partridge
Dobro jutro. Yes, gorgeous again this morning. Hopefully the sun will remain.

Rob, your fish murdering plot talk is disturbing to me. Would it be too much to ask to keep the deets to yourself? Tell us when it's over, perhaps?
Edited at April 14, 2013 8:53 AM
April 14, 2013 9:08 AM - Deleted
April 14, 2013 9:10 AM - Donatella

GCar, in case you were thinking of Gladys as an "inanimate object", Gladys is very animate!

Good Morning.
Edited at April 14, 2013 9:10 AM
April 14, 2013 9:10 AM - Donatella

Still coughing.
Edited at April 14, 2013 9:10 AM
April 14, 2013 9:11 AM - Donatella

Thanks Scott.
April 14, 2013 9:11 AM - MontroseMorris
Thank you for the birthday wishes, CGar. It's good to be 29 again this year.
April 14, 2013 9:14 AM - Partridge
Happy birthday, Ms. Montrose! Hope it is a good one.
April 14, 2013 9:16 AM - dibs
Happy Birthday!!!
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April 14, 2013 9:16 AM - Deleted
Happy birthday MM
April 14, 2013 9:16 AM - Deleted
April 14, 2013 9:24 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
happy b-day, mm!
April 14, 2013 9:26 AM - MontroseMorris
I'm actually here in Brooklyn. Leading a Bed Stuy walking tour with Amzi today at 11. Then I'm going to my brother's house to a birthday dinner with his family at some Westchester eatery. Between spending time with my hosts, which is only polite, and doing the things I came down here to do, there's not much time to socialize, so I didn't even try to set anything up with anyone. I would love to see everyone, it's been a while.
April 14, 2013 9:27 AM - MontroseMorris
Thanks, everyone !!!!!!!!!!
April 14, 2013 9:28 AM - Donatella
Happy Birthday, MM.
April 14, 2013 9:34 AM - Slope4Eva
GM. Happy Birthday, MM.
April 14, 2013 9:37 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Dobro jutro.

Happy Birthday, MM!!

April 14, 2013 9:44 AM - MontroseMorris
Thank you all. Signing off now, gotta pack up my stuff. Will check up on you all from leafy New Rochelle, later.
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April 14, 2013 9:54 AM - Deleted
How to make whole meal bread. Very interesting

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April 14, 2013 9:58 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
DH! ROFL! WTF was that! I can't even believe I opened that link!

OMFG, I'm laughing so hard...and now I'm having a coughing fit...
April 14, 2013 10:00 AM - Deleted
You don't cook like that? I'm rocking out right now making oatmeal
April 14, 2013 10:02 AM - Deleted
Rob, your fish murdering plot talk is disturbing to me. Would it be too much to ask to keep the deets to yourself?

I am not going to fry up Jamie Lee and feed it to the cat up the street. I was just throwing it out there as an other worldly possibility. Would I like to fry up jamie lee and feed it to the cat up the street? Well, perhaps. Will I do that? um, no. The fish is sick, I think. Or it's just beyond bizarre. I don't know. You're making a really big deal out of this acting like im some sorta Scale Baby version of Casey Anthony. I am not. I Love my fish; just want to do the best thing for them. I have no clue if Jamie Lee is suffering or not. Perhaps I'm a frickin weirdo, who knows. I did keep stuffed animals until I was 14 and when I came home one day my grandparents threw them all out! I was "spending too much time with them". :-/ People are so judgey these days.

MM, Happy Birthday girl!!!! Doing anything fun!?

April 14, 2013 10:02 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Of course I do, I was talking about the chick at the beginning. ; )
April 14, 2013 10:03 AM - Slope4Eva
I may watch it a second time!!!
April 14, 2013 10:10 AM - Deleted
And whatever you might think of how the Jamie Lee saga will end, it's irrelevant. All my fish have been saved from a chain pet store that keeps them in tiny little cups. MOST of them never get bought; they are discarded. The come from breeding farms. (they are NOT btw goldfish that are injected with dye as Pete said yesterday :-/ ). Don't question how I raise my fishies. They are well taken care of. I'm sorry I even brought up the whole Jamie Lee sickness issue, apparently I am a monster.

Yes, I am a total weirdo and in my peabrained mind I am the host of the show Tanks Of Love. deal with it! I don't hate on the other weirdo things people do that they enjoy!

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April 14, 2013 10:17 AM - Deleted
And with fish, as boring as they might seem to some people as pets (which I totally understand), you can project shit onto them that is amazing. It's like having stuffed animals all over again!

I really don't see the harm. I'd be a real grouch without them. Plus fish poop is like miniscule and you rarely ever see them poop or have to deal with on the spot like you have to do with dogs. I can't believe I spent years picking poop up off concrete :-/ The whole thought of dogs now seems grody to me. What a difference a few months make. I totally thought I was a "dog person". Um no, they are gross.

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April 14, 2013 10:28 AM - Deleted
The psychic part of my brain vibrationally just felt Duke calling me a bitch. I don't think I am being a bitch. I just don't find dogs all that interesting anymore. Is that bad? Plus every single person in my neighborhood seems to have a dog these days. Most of them supposed "hardcore" dogs like pitbulls and shit. CORNY! Moonfaces with pitbulls :-/ This is why I was in a state of anomie when I lived in Harlem with Duke.

Everyone at work has pictures of their family posted at their desks, I have pictures of all my fishes (and Duke) and I say, if you think it's weird, than that's YOUR problem, not mine.

Okay, for real headed to the beach now.

FYI: I no longer identify as an Autosexual. That was severely limiting my psychic space. I am now literally a freesexual (i.e. whatever happens, happens). The Universe always provides when you free your mind, and that is what I am doing. I will not poopoo the idea of meeting new people and the possible sexual situations that might happen. I am however, NOT looking to get laid or anything, just freeing my mind and not pigeonholing myself into the weird ass world of autosexuality (omg, autosexuals are FREAKS! oh, and like 99% of them are fugly as sin. Yeah let's claim a sexual identity and be all nazi-like about it because no one will sleep with you... okay!)

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April 14, 2013 10:30 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Rob, How about we make a special thread for you to do your "Tanks Of Love" show? Post a photo and I'll make the thread for you, and you can 'wax rhapsodic' about your fish there.
April 14, 2013 10:31 AM - Partridge
"I also want four perfect fishies in my tanks, not three fun ones and one lame one."

Your words, not mine. That poor fish has been renamed, gender confused, criticized for under performing, depressed, anorexic, and a hundred other weird things since its adoption. It you are going to flush, freeze or fry -- please leave me and the rest of us out of it.
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April 14, 2013 10:35 AM - Deleted
Oh get over yourself. It was a 5 dollar fish that got tons of love and attention for months. But thank you, Part! At least I have a Eulogy for Jamie Lee :)

Cobble, No. I will just stop talking about fish incessantly. Yeah, I realize that when I latch onto something I blah blah blah about it non stop. I'm adult enough to stop talking about it. I don't need my own cyber romper room, but it was sweet of you to suggest it.

April 14, 2013 10:37 AM - Deleted
I'm trying to time my beach trip... I dont want to leave too early, or too late. Last times I left at 1. This time I want to leave at like 1130. I want prime sun. FYI: the bathrooms on that beach are closed and locked so you gotta pee in the ocean :-/ wtf?
April 14, 2013 10:45 AM - Deleted
Anyone have something betta to talk about?

April 14, 2013 10:45 AM - Deleted
One more thing, Part... You seem to know the entire Jamie Lee story. It's not like my posts are little blips and blops where you can't help but accidently read them. They are a little longish (sorry) so clearly you are reading them. If you don't want to hear about Jamie Lee than don't read my posts. Whenever I see a long ass post by Dave I scroll down knowing full well it's something that will raise my blood pressure or put me to sleep.

I'll make everyone a deal here though. I will stop talking about my fish from here on out, like I had to do that on Facebook. People have no problem cramming you wall with pictures of their human babies, but oh yeah when you do it wish fish it's creepy and spammish :-/

So I will stop talking about them from here on out. I will write about them in my journal, which I am having a hard time starting a new one because my last one (the last 5 years of my life) has gone missing as well. I can't find it :( I PRAY TO GOD no one stole it or that I left it somewhere. Embarrassing cuz I am fully candid in my journaling, much like here I guess.

I'll shut up now. My brain races at the speed of a lambourguini sometimes. The sun and the sand and the ocean should slow me down a little.
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April 14, 2013 10:47 AM - More4Less
love me some diner oatmeal - from those old school greek diners. prefer that over my usual special K cereal
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April 14, 2013 10:49 AM - Deleted
omg I <3 Special K!

April 14, 2013 10:50 AM - Deleted
I wish I had some for the beach in a bit! Though I'd probably think I was a killer whale or something and drowning myself.

April 14, 2013 10:50 AM - Deleted
Not the drug
April 14, 2013 10:51 AM - Deleted
Ketamine + ocean = drowning
April 14, 2013 10:54 AM - Deleted
I was talking about the awesome cereal that melts great with Milk you fucking druggie!

April 14, 2013 10:56 AM - Deleted
Cereal makes you think you're a killer whale? Weeeeeeird
April 14, 2013 10:58 AM - Deleted
It's healthy for you (as long as it's not sugar snaps or lucky charms), so you can swim like you are a killer whale? Okay, Yeah I was talking about the other version of it. Damn student loans!

April 14, 2013 11:02 AM - Slope4Eva
Rant, feel free to skip.

So, as you know Juan has been in a rehab facility for three weeks/two days. I have heard NOTHING from his two daughters since prior to that. They never acknowledged the text I sent during the move (the 5 other people who received the same text did). On Friday they posted on FB how people are forgetting them. How no one is calling and asking them how THEY are. How people forget they are part of the family too.

I believe I have posted updates 3 times on FB (Thanksgiving, XMas, and the release from hospital). I assume the fact that my FB friends (family only and a handful of life friends) all sent love and prayers has annoyed them. Their rant on Friday got two responses. If anyone did call to ask them how their Dad was, they wouldn't be able to answer. They don't ask how he is, don't call, they feel THEY are not getting shown the love. Ugh, done, done, done!!!

Carry on. I'm finally getting a haircut today. Its all about ME for the next two hours!!!!
April 14, 2013 11:02 AM - Deleted
You know would be nice? If the government sent Thank You letters to people every year or so for paying back their student loans on time. Even credit card companies, and all other debts. It would be awesome to get a thank you notice in the mail; it would make lots of people feel good for paying back their debt. You get nasty notices when you DONT pay, but how about some nice thank you letters when you are good and DO pay? Show some love, and people will be more willing to part with their money.

(fyi: I am thinking about getting my masters in organizational psychology)
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April 14, 2013 11:04 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Rant on, Eva. They're behaving badly. IGNORE! And, seriously relax and enjoy your haircut appt. You DESERVE it! : )
April 14, 2013 11:04 AM - Deleted
Those daughters sound like a piece of work Dona "what about meeeeeeeeeee"
April 14, 2013 11:06 AM - Deleted
My goal with this would be to work in HR in Mexico or China.
April 14, 2013 11:06 AM - Deleted
Sorry. Eva not Dona
April 14, 2013 11:08 AM - Deleted
Oh yeah one of my credit cards just drastically cut my interest rate - prolly to try And lure me to use it again
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April 14, 2013 11:09 AM - Deleted
I recognize Spanish as much as I do English in the spoken word (even though Im a deafy). I can do this. I'd rather work in Mexico than China though. Be near the beaches, work from home if need be... I do have a path of life that I want to follow. Mexico's rising middle class it a HUGE way to make lots of money and live a good life for people in America. We take in their lower class, but they take in our higher class. so why not?

April 14, 2013 11:10 AM - Slope4Eva
Yes, I do deserve it, so does everyone else that has to look at me. Later gators.
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April 14, 2013 11:13 AM - Deleted
Oh yeah one of my credit cards just drastically cut my interest rate - prolly to try And lure me to use it again

On the two cards that I have where I have zero balances I usually buy some random thing or two each month and then pay it off. Im sure they are chary of that behavior, but that's not a bad thing to do right? I think it helps credit scores. I just have to get the other two cards back to zero! gack! But both of those are zero percent interest for a year or so now, so should be fine. I use my other two cards that do charge interest to purchase random things like at the supermarket and then just pay them back.

I have 22 dollars on my GM card towards a new card though LOL. Why they even gave me that card even though I told them I dont have a driver's license is beyond me.

April 14, 2013 11:18 AM - Donatella

I gave a little speech to R on the importance of beauty parlors to women. He told me that wasn't true for everyone. Me, maybe. But I really do think that if it isn't universal, it comes close. It is am imposition of order on disorder, beauty on the natural messiness of life; beauty parlors provide care, attention, humor, understanding and solidarity among the world of women.

Ok, that may be a crock, but Eva ENJOY YOURSELF AND GET GORGEOUS. Relax and have fun. Something amiss with daughters.
April 14, 2013 11:22 AM - Arkady
I don't subscribe to the beauty parlor thing - it's just another annoying necessity.
Partridge - Have you seen today's Times? Big piece on preparing for next-door construction. Did someone already post the link? http://tinyurl.com/cdwffl3
HB, MM!!
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April 14, 2013 11:25 AM - Deleted
I gave a little speech to R on the importance of beauty parlors to women. He told me that wasn't true for everyone. Me, maybe. But I really do think that if it isn't universal, it comes close. It is am imposition of order on disorder, beauty on the natural messiness of life; beauty parlors provide care, attention, humor, understanding and solidarity among the world of women.

::golf clap::

Beautifully said, Donatella! I cringe whenever I see sites like brownnoser and other new bruuuueklen-centric blogs cheer when a nail shop or a hair place closes down only to open up a lame moonface bar or restaurant.

Bizarre to feel this way, but I feel like white people just want to FEEL good. Black people like to LOOK good. Hispanics and asians, well sorry who knows? our country is sadly divided on a black/white issue since birth.

No one likes to really talk about the bizarre racial issues we have in this country, and we have MAD racial issues, even more today in 2013 than we did in like 1913.
April 14, 2013 11:28 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
eva, screw them! they should be ashamed for their fb statements, but alas, they likely are not. go out and enjoy your 'you' time. you deserve it.
April 14, 2013 11:32 AM - InsertSnappyNameHere
part, does that mean your hope to add extra windows are now nixed for sure?
April 14, 2013 11:32 AM - Partridge
Yes, Arkady. Thank you. rf posted it on Friday. From what the article says, we are poised correctly and defensively. Have attorneys, engineers and homeowners engaged. For us, the big disappointment will be the loss of most of our lot-line windows. A fact that we were aware of through the disclosures of our offering plan, but had still hoped to avoid.
April 14, 2013 11:38 AM - Partridge
No, Snaps. They showed us their plans. When they become final, I will know what area is available to me to open up and I'll see if it seems worthwhile.

Lot-line windows are considered temporary at best. The owners of the adjacent property would be free to place a shed, plant a tree or erect a fence if they were to choose to do so.
April 14, 2013 11:39 AM - rf
Oh, Eva, I can relate!
April 14, 2013 11:39 AM - Partridge
It is possible to agree to an easement between parties.
April 14, 2013 11:40 AM - Donatella

I am sure the beauty parlor thing is related also the the high maintenance nature of my hair.

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April 14, 2013 11:40 AM - Deleted
I don't know if I should go to the beach or not. Here is Jamie Lee right now...

Sorry, I promised I wouldnt talk about my fish again, but grrrr. Is he in pain? I tried everything.

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April 14, 2013 11:42 AM - rf
Ugh, woke up with a migraine.
April 14, 2013 11:42 AM - Deleted
Is cobble right? Does my fish just LIKE to swim upside down? He does it all the time now that he doesnt float to his side.


April 14, 2013 11:45 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
I have no idea about anything about fish, rob.
April 14, 2013 11:48 AM - Donatella
Rob, I think Americans are developing a completely rum-ball approach to fashion and grooming. Re Latinos, there is a Latin approach to grooming and fashion that is really elegant, but it also includes Italians. Style matters.
April 14, 2013 11:49 AM - Cobble B. Hiller
Try putting in the toilet, it's worked for me. (KIDDING!)
April 14, 2013 11:49 AM - Donatella

Maybe he just likes the backstroke, rob. Maybe it is relaxing.
April 14, 2013 12:01 PM - petebklyn
I don't know what planet you live on -- but more likely bar replaced by nail salon than other way around.
Although I have no love of either.
April 14, 2013 12:07 PM - petebklyn
just in case things don't improve for the fish here is a youtube video on how to fillet:
April 14, 2013 12:14 PM - Deleted
Rob : fish = park slope parents : crotchfruit
April 14, 2013 12:14 PM - rf
All my fish have been saved from a chain pet store that keeps them in tiny little cups. MOST of them never get bought; they are discarded. The come from breeding farms. (they are NOT btw goldfish that are injected with dye as Pete said yesterday :-/ ). Don't question how I raise my fishies. They are well taken care of. I'm sorry I even brought up the whole Jamie Lee sickness issue, apparently I am a monster.

And that is the difference between adopting a child and "adopting" a tropical fish. (Wow, does that sound absurd or what???) No one is allowed to adopt a child (maybe different if the child is a relative) without repeating 1000000 times: when you adopt a child, you are not rescuing him/her.

Enough said on that subject lest Rob prattle on and on about how I always bring up my child and where she comes from, into every OT topic. Pot, please meet kettle.
April 14, 2013 12:39 PM - kazootite
Rob, I just put this into my search engine and came up with much information: "What to do with a sick pet fish?"

So fish can become ill and could be suffering just as any other being and not be able to communicate that suffering. I'd be tempted to phone my Vet.
April 14, 2013 12:41 PM - Deleted
Just got out of the shower. Sorry, RF, but your child is nor more or less important than my fishes. Sorry! At least my fish arent tax eaters! I think people who dont have children should not have to pay into the tax system for schools and stuff. Not a popular opinoin, I know, but still, the current set up is SO unfair.

What's also unfair is that million dollar brownstones pay like nothing in property taxes :/ And the only reason those brownstone owners DONT pay their fair shair of taxes is cuz cuz we live in a city with so many people who are literally flat out dumb and stupid and breed more of them to support. Nothing wrong with this? err...

April 14, 2013 12:45 PM - petebklyn
possible places for you to move if ever want to leave brooklyn:
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April 14, 2013 12:47 PM - Deleted
Rob : fish = park slope parents : crotchfruit

um, yeah that's why I moved to Park SLope to begin with! to give my dog a good life. which he had. My fishies though? eh, they can be as ghetto as I am/.

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April 14, 2013 12:51 PM - kazootite
Happy Birthday, Montrose!

CGar, Get Well Soon !
April 14, 2013 1:03 PM - rf
Yesterday we went to visit SUNY Stony Brook with friends, a mom and kid from MA. My kid got to drive more than half of the trip, after we crossed into Nassau County and on the way home until we left Nassau County. On the way home. someone cut her off and she did very well, using the emergency lane on the right to avoid what would have been a really nasty accident.

Last night I had a dream that I was babysitting 2 kids, one around 2, the other around 5. The 5-year-old was extremely reckless and, after setting a terrible example for his brother by going down the slide head-first (and his baby brother did too, I couldn't catch him fast enough, and the baby landed on his head at the foot of the slide), wanted to play on the 4 feet of striped pavement between the bike lane and the car lane.

No wonder I woke up with a migraine! The older they get, the bigger the danger.
April 14, 2013 1:08 PM - etson
Some self-obsession from the outside world:
April 14, 2013 1:09 PM - etson
And on a nicer topic, Happy Birthday Montrose!
April 14, 2013 1:13 PM - kazootite
Searched with these words: "pet fish symptom - fish lays on its side in aquarium". There are many more answers than this one:
April 14, 2013 1:16 PM - kazootite
Eva, good luck to you in all you are going through.
April 14, 2013 1:18 PM - rf
You too, Kazoo! Do you have anyone there to share the burden with your mom?
April 14, 2013 1:18 PM - kazootite
Oy! Etson.
April 14, 2013 1:30 PM - kazootite
Rf, thank you. I am arranging for more help this week. Then things should be better. For her, too. Will write more later.
April 14, 2013 1:40 PM - Donatella
rf, the dream reflects anxiety about letting your girl drive?? The near accident and her riding to the shoulder of the road?? Your mind is on overdrive concerned about protecting her!

R not feeling well; I considered going out to the Brooklyn Museum, OR driving over to Brooklyn Terminal Markets OR going to Coney Island. But I think this is a good day to lay around; I'd like to stop coughing and finally get over this endless cold.
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April 14, 2013 1:41 PM - rf
Kazoo, almost a year ago I found a support group through the NYC Alzheimer's Assn. (thank you Donatella!) Then in November I couldn't go anymore because of the day of the week when I had a more important commitment. I am thinking about looking for a new group on a different day, even though it's not my dad who has Alzheimer's and I don't feel nearly as affected by my stepmother who, after all, is not my mother (they married when I was in my early 30s after my mom died). Every person in my old group felt the weight of caring or managing or watching out for the parent, sort of the opposite of raising a child since the expectations and outcome are so different. I still get emails from the old group and 3 or 4 of the parents have died since I left. I think it's time for me to find a new group. Maybe you could find something similar in CA? The ones here meet every other week or every 3rd week with a social worker present and are free due to state or city grants. This time around it feels very lonely making decisions for my dad and stepmother.
April 14, 2013 2:15 PM - rf
Sorry for such a bummer TKOTD!
April 14, 2013 2:22 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
I'm sorry you feel lonely, rf. I know how difficult these things are, truly. I hope you know I'm here to talk to, though I have my own behind the scenes stuff to cope with, too.
April 14, 2013 2:29 PM - petebklyn
the brunch crowd is out in full force on smith st. today. rarely am I around to see the phenomenon.
I can't imagine standing around waiting for a table just to eat some brunch food. At least weather really nice.
Headed to concert in few minutes.

April 14, 2013 2:39 PM - Partridge
"the brunch crowd is out in full force on smith st. today."

I thought Dave was in Philly? I had a penguin sighting earlier. No bloody Mary's here!
April 14, 2013 2:40 PM - Partridge
And I too, would be happy to talk you about any and all of it. In retrospect, I don't know how I dd it and have erased many of the hard parts from my memory. It can be the ultimate challenge.

Such a true statement you wrote here: "... sort of the opposite of raising a child since the expectations and outcome are so different."
April 14, 2013 2:41 PM - petebklyn
I peaked in at some shop on smith earlier. proprietor looked swamped.
I've been an orphan for quite awhile ...but lot of friends who still have parent or other elderly relatives dealing with it every day. Seems older the person makes it...the more complicated the situations. Draining and you know not going to get better.
April 14, 2013 2:47 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
So true, LP. But I remember still very well.

Years after my father died, I had dinner w/ a friend who knew me through the years of his illness. She was taking care of her father, who had had a bad stroke, around the time of our dinner. And she told me she had no idea of the SCOPE of what I was coping with back when my father needed care. But few do, in my experience, unless/until they have done it.
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April 14, 2013 3:40 PM - Partridge
They are coming in packs and in waves today. Like tour buses unloading, then quiet. Must be based on brunch seatings.
April 14, 2013 4:11 PM - rf
Thanks, OT friends! Re the difference in outcomes vs with a child, it's so weird to do both at the same time!
April 14, 2013 4:57 PM - dibs
Been out drinking since 12:00. Done with you people now
April 14, 2013 5:11 PM - rf
Did you find another blog?
April 14, 2013 5:16 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Well then! Good evening to you, too, DIBS!
April 14, 2013 5:29 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
What happened, did DIBS suddenly need a ' nap'? ; )
April 14, 2013 5:31 PM - DeadCatBounce
From Bloomberg:
"Slavery generates about $32 billion in profits a year, according to the International Labour Organisation, with activities such as sex trafficking and mining so-called conflict minerals used in electronics including laptops and mobile phones."
April 14, 2013 6:25 PM - petebklyn
probably all tax free profit too.
April 14, 2013 7:22 PM - Partridge
What were all you peeps doing today while I was working? Was looking forward to some entertaining reading. Where are y'all?
April 14, 2013 7:26 PM - Deleted

and I am not going to share why because there are so many haters here.

April 14, 2013 7:31 PM - DeadCatBounce
Well it's about time, Rob.
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April 14, 2013 7:33 PM - Partridge
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April 14, 2013 7:34 PM - Deleted
but i will... I can swim in the ocean with like NO PEOPLE IN IT! omg. <3 mysel for this. Some russian woman was like u are crazy! I was hells no and just swam like a fish.
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April 14, 2013 7:34 PM - rf
So we only get to read the bad stuff?
April 14, 2013 7:36 PM - Deleted
I was swimming in the ocean and there was ZERO other people around! 1.) i peed and 2.) I was like OMG
April 14, 2013 7:38 PM - petebklyn
it would almost be worth it to go to coney island to see what he calls swimming in the ocean.
April 14, 2013 7:39 PM - Deleted
I cant believe people are such liars when they say the ocean is "too cold" um, it is totally not.

April 14, 2013 7:41 PM - Deleted
it would almost be worth it to go to coney island to see what he calls swimming in the ocean.

I go swimming in Brighton actually. Where do you swim? Old man fart bubbles at the Y?
April 14, 2013 7:42 PM - rf
OMG peeing in the ocean?
April 14, 2013 7:43 PM - Deleted
Also, Pete, I ask that you get off my dick. I dont say rude shit to do u, so don't do it to me.

April 14, 2013 7:45 PM - DeLepp
coney island was crowded. the lines at nathans were tremendous. lots of work going on there.
April 14, 2013 7:47 PM - Deleted
OMG peeing in the ocean?

Yep. I LOVE it.

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April 14, 2013 7:48 PM - Partridge
Did you see Rob swimming like a fish, DeLepp?
April 14, 2013 7:48 PM - Deleted
I went on some rides at Luna. Was fun :) I didnt think it was crowded though. But the workers are ghetto as FUCK.

April 14, 2013 7:50 PM - DeLepp
part, nope. It was warm so I can imagine folks taking a dip.
April 14, 2013 7:50 PM - Deleted
I got into two fights on two rides :-/ I was like hells no you cant take MY bag when you dont take the other bitches' bags in front of me and behind me. Of course they HAVE to put your bags down on the ground, but but whatever, they let hoodrats take theirs.

April 14, 2013 7:51 PM - DeLepp
work as in repairing the boardwalk.
April 14, 2013 7:54 PM - Deleted
Black people get to go on rides for free I saw today. Is that racist? I hope not, it's sorta racist that people get to get on rides for free but not others. oh well. what;s UP with that? I am going to try and put some national media news attention on that shit. but doubt anything will be coverered.

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April 14, 2013 7:55 PM - Deleted
BBQ has been christened.
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April 14, 2013 7:57 PM - Deleted
It wasn't even on the downlow, it was literally SO blatant and in your face. It actually shocked me. I was totally disgusted.

April 14, 2013 8:05 PM - petebklyn
as long as it didn't ruin your day, we are happy.
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April 14, 2013 8:08 PM - Partridge
So tell us why it was the "BEST.DAY.EVER!"
April 14, 2013 8:12 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Walked with visiting friend from Bedford L stop through Satmarland and Clinton Hill (maybe skirted a corner of Bed-Stuy, not sure), to Barclays Center, Park Slope, Prospect Park, then back to Ditmas Park. 8.5 miles in all.

St. James Place between Fulton and Gates, that's an amazing block!

Happy Birthday, MM!
April 14, 2013 8:13 PM - Deleted
That's biggies old block
April 14, 2013 8:18 PM - Partridge
What did you fire up on the barbie, DH?
April 14, 2013 8:33 PM - CGar
partridge . . . I'll have to email it to you so you can enlarge it and really see the detail . . .
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April 14, 2013 8:37 PM - Partridge
OTT like mine!
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April 14, 2013 8:38 PM - Deleted
So tell us why it was the "BEST.DAY.EVER!"

Sun, sand, ocean. Not a SINGLE moonface in sight! that is the BEST.DAY.EVER!. Sorry but I can't stand the corny white people that infest NYC. I have nothing against white people, but there's a certain kind of white people that make you just want to stick razer blades in your eyeballs. You KNOW who they are.

April 14, 2013 8:45 PM - Partridge
Glad it was good for you.
April 14, 2013 8:45 PM - petebklyn
here can be your new home:
April 14, 2013 8:50 PM - Partridge
OMG! Gotta a love an open plan bathroom!!!!
April 14, 2013 8:53 PM - rf
Rob, my guess is that they know the "ghetto" people running the rides who passed them in for free.
April 14, 2013 8:53 PM - Deleted
April 14, 2013 9:00 PM - Donatella
Does anybody know a notary public?

New tenants have to fax Con Ed a notarized lease to open an account. I wrote a rider in the lease giving them a discount on the rent in exchange for their paying the community electricity. They agreed but Con Ed needs the lease and rider notarized. Major PIA since we need three people present to have it done and so we need to schedule. I found someone = a realtor - around the corner who was willing to do it Sat am as a favor, but tenant couldn't do it. I just need a place where we can make an appt together or just show up and make sure a notary is around. Annoying.
April 14, 2013 9:03 PM - Donatella

"St. James Place between Fulton and Gates, that's an amazing block"

Why?? I can't think of anything about that block that is amazing.

April 14, 2013 9:03 PM - Partridge
Real estate, lawyers, insurance, tax and banks Dona.
April 14, 2013 9:05 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Maybe I have the wrong cross streets, Dona. But in any case, there was a block of St. James that my friend and I found quite interesting. I think the house numbers were in the 170s and 180s.
April 14, 2013 9:06 PM - Deleted
Think that's gates and Greene
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April 14, 2013 9:06 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Also keep in mind that much of our walk had been through Satmarland - architectural disaster. Though we did find the probably-illegal corrugated metal balconies interesting.
April 14, 2013 9:07 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Hmmm...looking on google streetview, maybe it was a different block. Also, I saw Mr. Melon for the first time! No What sightings though.
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April 14, 2013 9:10 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
you didn't see the what but the what likely saw you!

::insert evil laugh here::
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April 14, 2013 9:11 PM - etson
The older Satmar areas are an interesting walk - streets off Lee Ave.
I used to do lots of BK walks when I was out of work for a few months 6 years ago but barely had chance since, even when I still lived in NYC.
Starting in Bay Ridge or Williamsburg and using lots of different routes to end up in PS was fun.
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April 14, 2013 9:11 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
rf, i took your advice today in the grocery store and smelled the strawberries to pick some. the regular ones smelled like nothing. the organic ones smelled like strawberry! i got so excited...until i saw the 7.99 price tag. i promptly put them back and grabbed a bag of granny smith apples instead. sigh.
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April 14, 2013 9:19 PM - rf
Snappy, they should smell better in a month or two when they don't have to roll off the conveyor belt from Chile. That's a really long trip!
April 14, 2013 9:21 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
i'll hold out then. i just couldn't stomach paying that much for a small thing of berries. i had been having visions of fresh strawberries, entenmann's pound cake and cool whip. nom. alas, my vision will have to be put on hold.
April 14, 2013 9:23 PM - Donatella

If I were going to do this myself, I am sure I could just find someone to notarize something. But I have to get three people together to do it and need to schedule something when we are all available. I found a mobile notary who is nearby and who is supposed to be able to travel. So I want to see if I can arrange that.

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April 14, 2013 9:24 PM - InsertSnappyNameHere
dona, just go to a bank whenever you are all free.
April 14, 2013 9:27 PM - rf
Donatella, you could check with the pharmacy on Fulton and St. James first thing tomorrow morning--I think they have a sign outside that says "Notary." Also Prospect on Greene and Vanderbilt. You could call first thing in the morning.
April 14, 2013 9:32 PM - Donatella
Yes, Six, regarding St. James, there are a lot of Civil War era frame houses on St. James between Gates and Greene. I was looking at a little brick house to buy on St. James between Gates and Fulton and it is not so interesting. What a story. The place was owned by a really strange and paranoid guy who lived there with his family. The place was a disaster and housekeeping was squalid (understatement). I asked my brother (then NYFD Batallion Chief) to take a look at it re structure as a favor to me. He showed up with official car, his driver and in uniform and I thought the guy was going to have a stroke. My brother and I both learned something - my brother about how even though it was a personal favor to me on a break between jobs, his OFFICIAL car, driver, uniform scared the crap out of the owner. He was slime though, if I can be judgmental. His daughter was in a room with an oxygen tank off from school due to asthma. And the house was filled with animal filth, feces, grime, insects, filthy beyond your imagination. No wonder the poor kid couldn't breathe.
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April 14, 2013 9:37 PM - Donatella

Thanks, Snappy. Thanks rf. There is a Capitalone on the corner of Fulton and Clinton. And yes, now that you mention it, I know they have a fax and copy machine in that drug store so maybe notary too. We'll figure this out.
April 14, 2013 9:37 PM - rf
Donatella, are you sure that house wasn't on Cambridge?
April 14, 2013 9:39 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Wow, Dona - is that the house very close to the corner of St. James and Gates, with the garage to the left (if you're facing it)? Now it's all boarded up. Looks totally decrepit but my friend and I thought it must have an interesting story.
April 14, 2013 9:43 PM - rf
Six, there was a fire in the house you are talking about.
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April 14, 2013 9:45 PM - Donatella

Six, that might be the house next door. The one that I was interested in was a nice brick with stained glass windows. It had an inverted V shaped peak on the facade. Last I looked it was ok. It was a very interesting house and it had a sister house next door, same exact design. We (my brother and I) made a big mistake in his showing up with his regalia and entourage. The owner went from weird to off the charts hostile. Then I thought Screw it. This guy is a nut; there are other houses.
April 14, 2013 9:45 PM - Cobble B. Hiller

I have nothing of interest to say. Just good evening. I'm lurking. : )
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April 14, 2013 9:50 PM - Donatella
rf, it was definitely on St. James. There are a lot of interesting houses on Cambridge too. Shawn Anderson bought a nice frame house on Cambridge. It was a wreck but he restored it.

Six, Fort Greene/Clinton Hill has magnificent houses, doesn't it?
April 14, 2013 9:51 PM - rf
Donatella, I was thinking of the house that Shawn Anderson bought. I was inside it before the auction.
April 14, 2013 9:56 PM - sixyearsandcounting
Ah, probably not next door but a few doors down and across the street. Though there are some magnificent houses with arches on that block too. Sometime I'm going to get a list of best blocks in Brooklyn from all the PLUSAs and take a walking tour based on those recs.
April 14, 2013 10:04 PM - Donatella
The Avenues are pretty spectacular, Six. Some of the houses fell into pretty serious disrepair during the bad old days but Clinton and Washington Avenues have some extraordinary mansions. But the variety of architecture in this neighborhood really attracted me; I was fantasizing about owning something here long before I did. I had this idea of buying a brownstone which seemed almost crazy to me, but my old neighbor, friend and long time brownstone owner convinced me that it was doable and also preferable to owning a coop. He forgot to mention the minor issue of maintenance but I was interested in this neighborhood.
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April 14, 2013 10:09 PM - Donatella
Well, time to wind down and go beddy-bye. Goodnight everyone.
April 14, 2013 10:14 PM - Partridge
Good night, Dona. Don't let the squirrels bite!
April 14, 2013 10:17 PM - Donatella

Nobody in here but us humans. (I hope)

April 14, 2013 10:45 PM - Cobble B. Hiller
Crickets, huh. Oh, well. G'nite then.
April 14, 2013 11:39 PM - Deleted
Some reality TV show on some random on air network called Being Mandela. Two black chicks in Africa (I assume relatives of Mandela?) acting like moonfaces creating their
"brand" (i hate that word) and had someone make a tshirt line for them. so bizarre.